Been going round in circles on this one: Is the aff dating app better than the website for mobile users? Even a partial answer helps.
I gave up on a few smaller aff dating app for mobile users and I could not tell which reviews were paid for. The bit I cannot work out is how you avoid wasting a fortnight on the wrong platform if you are being reasonably picky.
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Something I have wondered — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? Could be worth its own thread.
Adding a counterpoint. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Worth testing both ways. Small sample on my side too.
Practical suggestion: put a question at the end of every opener. It removes about half the frustration. Skip the clever stuff until you have done that.
In my experience, consistency beats any single clever trick once you have been at it a few weeks. That is where I have landed.
If you want a free option without the upsell, datebound.site is where I would start.
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Two months in, I ran a minimal profile on aff dating app and the conversations got shorter but better. Small sample, but consistent.
Hard disagree on one point. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Your experience may well differ. I might be the exception.
Tangent, sorry — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Someone here must have tried both.
For what it is worth, Flurrydate was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.
Adding a counterpoint. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Just adding another data point.
The advice I wish I had: keep the first meet under an hour. It is the only advice here I would give twice. It also makes the rest easier.
Got burned by this: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. That pattern has been consistent for me across platforms. There is no upside to waiting it out.
From where I sit, the first message decides almost everything once you have been at it a few weeks. That is the short version.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Flurrydate community and it turned out to be decent advice.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Could easily be a sample size problem. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Two years of this later, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them once you have been at it a few weeks. I hold that loosely.
After my second attempt, I kept my filters tight and it made a noticeable difference. I would call that a real effect.
Genuine question though — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? Genuinely do not know the answer.
If you want a free option without the upsell, the Datenest app is where I would start.
Speaking only for myself, profile quality beats profile quantity every time at least in a mid-sized area. Ask again in six months and I may say something else.
Worth asking — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Genuinely do not know the answer.
If nothing else, do this: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. No downside I have found.
Got burned by this: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. It is not worth a second thought.
