Reposting this from another board because it got buried: Is there a specific dating app for gay people who want marriage? Recent experience preferred.
I spent about a month on whichever specific dating app for gay people who want marriage came up first and half the accounts looked inactive. The part that matters to me is which features are worth caring about as someone coming back after a long break.
Compare how reporting actually works without exception while the account is still new
Confirm how reporting actually works at the start on any platform you are considering
Question whether your profile is visible by default at the start while the account is still new
Work out what data the signup form asks for every time in the first day or two
Respectfully, I read it differently. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Worth testing both ways. That is one person's view against the thread.
Find out whether messaging is capped straight away in the first day or two
Assess whether profiles are verified at the start in the first day or two
Look at how reporting actually works without exception on any platform you are considering
Confirm the refund and cancellation terms carefully before writing a single message
Broadly speaking, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have though your mileage will vary. Others here will disagree.
One thing to watch: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. The cost of being wrong is low.
Two months in, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and the reply rate roughly doubled. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
Hard disagree on one point. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Just adding another data point.
One thing to watch: links dropped into a conversation with no context. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. There is no upside to waiting it out.
If I am being blunt, smaller platforms punch above their weight and the numbers back that up. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Low-risk approach: set your radius smaller than feels sensible. It is the only advice here I would give twice. Try it for one week only.
Switched over to DatingFly community after getting nowhere on the big names.
Genuine question though — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? No agenda, just curious.
For most of last year, I answered everything within a day and I finally stopped wasting evenings. Results were steady after the first week.
Based on a fairly small sample, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one for anyone starting from scratch. It is a boring answer and a true one.
If you want a free option without the upsell, Luvdate is where I would start.
Last month, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and I stopped taking silences personally. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Different city, different results, probably.
Before anything else: message within a day of matching. You will know within a week whether it works for you. It works better than it sounds.
Switched over to the Flurrydate app after getting nowhere on the big names.
