Something I keep wondering about: Are there any phone dating sites that still use voice calls? Happy to hear negative experiences too.
I have had mixed results with the free tier on several any phone dating sites and the matches were nowhere near me. The part that matters to me is how much of this is down to the profile itself without handing over a card number.
Hard disagree on one point. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Happy to be an outlier on that. That is one person's view against the thread.
That has not been my experience at all. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Happy to be an outlier on that. Open to changing my mind on it.
Learned this the hard way: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. Better to lose one match than a week. It is not worth a second thought.
Switched over to Flurrydate after getting nowhere on the big names.
Last month, I messaged first every single time and I finally stopped wasting evenings. Small sample, but consistent.
One thing to watch: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. There is no upside to waiting it out.
Purely anecdotal, being specific is worth more than being interesting which is why the generic advice keeps failing. Nothing controversial in that, I hope.
If you want a free option without the upsell, DatingFly is where I would start.
In my experience, the platform matters far less than the profile unless you have unusually niche requirements. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
When I first started, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and I got three real plans out of it. That held for about two months.
Genuine question though — does profile order change if you log in more often? Someone here must have tried both.
Different experience here. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Happy to be an outlier on that. Worth hearing both sides.
A friend has had far more luck on Flurrydate (free to message) than on anything mainstream.
Since switching my settings, I let the other person pick the plan and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
While we are here — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? No agenda, just curious.
Two years of this later, reply rates say more about timing than about looks and nobody wants to hear it. Ask again in six months and I may say something else.
If you want a free option without the upsell, datingfly.online is where I would start.
After my second attempt, I limited myself to three conversations at once and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
Before anything else: reply to the thing they actually said. You will know within a week whether it works for you. Zero cost to test it.
That has not been my experience at all. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Might just be my area. There is room for both to be true.
