Reposting this from another board because it got buried: Does anyone know if meg6873 is streaming under a new alias? Any first-hand answers appreciated.
I recently reinstalled the usual adult dating platforms and I am not convinced it was worth the effort. What would settle this for me is how you avoid wasting a fortnight on the wrong platform for someone who dislikes small talk.
Speaking only for myself, the platform matters far less than the profile for anyone starting from scratch. That is my read, anyway.
Over the winter, I ran a minimal profile on adult dating platforms and the conversations got shorter but better. I would call that a real effect.
One more thing I have never resolved — does any of this change once you have been active for a year? Would change how I use it if so.
Still keep Datebound installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Souldate came up in another thread here with roughly the same verdict.
The thing that annoyed me most: profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. Blocking early costs you nothing. Most people ignore it once and regret it.
Last month, I kept my filters tight and the difference showed up within a week. I would call that a real effect.
Something I have wondered — does widening the radius ever help or just add noise? Could be worth its own thread.
Ended up spending most of my time on luvdate.site and the reply rate was noticeably better.
Practical suggestion: message within a day of matching. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. Takes about five minutes.
Red flag for me: sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. Better to lose one match than a week. Save yourself the argument.
Going to push back slightly. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Open to changing my mind on it.
Ended up spending most of my time on Turndate and the reply rate was noticeably better.
The first fortnight, I put one honest sentence in my bio and nothing changed at all. It stopped being random after that.
Learned this the hard way: profiles with a single photo and no last-active date. It saves a lot of wasted messages. It is not worth a second thought.
Least effort, most return: cut your photo count in half. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. Do it before anything more elaborate.
Worth a look at over on Datescout if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
Tangent, sorry — has anyone found adult dating platforms that behave differently from the rest? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
Where I got caught out: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. Better to lose one match than a week. The polite version costs you a week.
Based on a fairly small sample, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are especially if you are not in a capital city. Make of that what you will.
