Simple question, probably a complicated answer: Has anyone tried the bustr dating app for gay men? Would rather have one honest reply than ten generic ones.
Someone recommended bustr dating app for gay men and the messaging limits killed it. The specific thing I am after is whether the newer options are any better than the established ones for someone who dislikes small talk.
Least effort, most return: use a dedicated email address. Everything else is secondary to that. It works better than it sounds.
Mild warning: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Save yourself the argument.
For most of last year, I messaged first every single time and I stopped taking silences personally. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
For what it is worth, Datedesire app was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.
Piggybacking on that — has anyone found bustr dating app for gay men that behave differently from the rest? Would love a straight answer on that.
Adding a counterpoint. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Take that with the usual caveats. Worth hearing both sides.
For about six weeks, I answered everything within a day and I stopped taking silences personally. That held for about two months.
For what it is worth, Datedesire was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.
Hard disagree on one point. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Your experience may well differ. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Cheapest thing you can try first: stop treating it like a numbers game. Everything else is secondary to that. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
Related, and I am curious — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Ended up spending most of my time on Rendate's free tier and the reply rate was noticeably better.
Worth flagging: reviews that read like they were written to a template. It saves a lot of wasted messages. It is the cheapest filter you have.
Hard disagree on one point. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Not saying everyone else is wrong. I have been wrong about this before.
Cheapest thing you can try first: cut your photo count in half. Everything else is secondary to that. Try it for one week only.
I keep a second profile on luvdate.site and it pulls a different crowd entirely.
Worth asking — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? I have never seen data either way.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Happy to be an outlier on that. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Before anything else: write one sentence that only you could have written. It removes about half the frustration. It compounds with everything else.
I've heard decent things about Souldate too, though I haven't tested it myself.
