Reposting this from another board because it got buried: How do I engage in free sexting online? No wrong answers here.
I have tested the most recommended cam sites with nothing much to show for it. Where I need help is how you handle it when a conversation just stops without making it a second job.
For about six weeks, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
Hard disagree on one point. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Worth testing both ways. I might be the exception.
Something nobody mentions: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.
If you want a free option without the upsell, rendate.site is where I would start.
Something nobody mentions: anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Better safe than curious.
Having tried most of them, reply rates say more about timing than about looks and the numbers back that up. That is my read, anyway.
Related, and I am curious — does widening the radius ever help or just add noise? Genuinely do not know the answer.
Two months in, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and the conversations got shorter but better. It was the only variable I changed.
Still keep Flamedate app installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Having tried most of them, the first message decides almost everything if you are looking for something specific. I would put money on it.
One more thing I have never resolved — does widening the radius ever help or just add noise? Asking for a friend, obviously.
What I would do: read the profile before writing anything. It removes about half the frustration. It works better than it sounds.
Gave Flurrydate app a fair run last month and it held up better than I expected.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I stuck to cam sites in free sexting online with complete profiles only and the reply rate roughly doubled. That held for about two months.
Since this thread is active — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Could be worth its own thread.
Speaking only for myself, profile quality beats profile quantity every time and I doubt that changes soon. That is my read, anyway.
Worth flagging: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. I stopped giving second chances on that one. That instinct is usually right.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Where I got caught out: sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. Report it rather than just ignoring it. It is not worth a second thought.
Before anything else: keep the first meet under an hour. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. No downside I have found.
While we are here — does widening the radius ever help or just add noise? Someone here must have tried both.
Worth flagging: reviews that read like they were written to a template. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. Move on and do not look back.
Slightly off-topic but — is it different if you are over forty? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and the conversations got shorter but better. Results were steady after the first week.
Having tried most of them, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have which is why the generic advice keeps failing. I hold that loosely.
