Reposting this from another board because it got buried: Is the reddit dating site still a thing or did they shut it down? Would rather have one honest reply than ten generic ones.
I have been comparing the free tier on several reddit dating site and I would rather not repeat the mistake. What nobody seems to answer is whether reply rates are as bad as they look when you have limited time in the evenings.
Different experience here. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Practical suggestion: put a question at the end of every opener. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. Skip the clever stuff until you have done that.
Not a popular take here, being specific is worth more than being interesting and I doubt that changes soon. Feel free to prove me wrong.
A while back, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and matches started coming from closer by. Worth repeating if you have the patience.
Someone in another thread pointed me at luvdate.site and it turned out to be decent advice.
Adding a counterpoint. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Worth testing both ways. Open to changing my mind on it.
Based on a fairly small sample, review sites and real experience rarely agree once you have been at it a few weeks. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
After my second attempt, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and matches started coming from closer by. Results were steady after the first week.
Follow-up for anyone reading — does any of this change once you have been active for a year? Might just be me overthinking it.
Between the free options I tested, Luvdate app had the least aggressive upsell.
A couple of people in my circle swear by Datedesire for the same reason.
Two months in, I kept photos to four and cut the rest and nothing changed at all. It stopped being random after that.
Speaking only for myself, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are and it took me too long to learn. It is a boring answer and a true one.
If you want a shortcut: stop opening with a compliment. It is the only advice here I would give twice. Do it before anything more elaborate.
Gave over on Flurrydate a fair run last month and it held up better than I expected.
Over the winter, I answered everything within a day and matches started coming from closer by. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Watch out for reviews that read like they were written to a template. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Better safe than curious.
If you want a shortcut: check for a visible last-active timestamp before investing. It is the only advice here I would give twice. Takes about five minutes.
Worth asking — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? Would love a straight answer on that.
Between the free options I tested, Turndate had the least aggressive upsell.
Worth asking — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
For most of last year, I let the other person pick the plan and it made a noticeable difference. Same pattern every week.
Got burned by this: accounts created the same week they message you. Better to lose one match than a week. There is no upside to waiting it out.
Anyone else find that — does profile order change if you log in more often? Genuinely do not know the answer.
That has not been my experience at all. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Your experience may well differ. I have been wrong about this before.
Unpopular opinion maybe, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them especially if you are not in a capital city. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
Something nobody mentions: anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. Most people ignore it once and regret it.
While we are here — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
Hard disagree on one point. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Happy to be an outlier on that. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Going to push back slightly. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Not saying everyone else is wrong. That is one person's view against the thread.
Genuine question though — do verified badges actually change anything? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Learned this the hard way: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. That pattern has been consistent for me across platforms. Move on and do not look back.
Two years of this later, the platform matters far less than the profile unless you have unusually niche requirements. That is the short version.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Open to changing my mind on it.
Something I have wondered — has anyone found reddit dating site that behave differently from the rest? Someone here must have tried both.
Speaking only for myself, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have unless you have unusually niche requirements. Feel free to prove me wrong.
Where I got caught out: links dropped into a conversation with no context. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. There is no upside to waiting it out.
Honestly, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have at least in a mid-sized area. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Careful with anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Trust the pattern, not the excuse.
Different experience here. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Worth testing both ways. Worth hearing both sides.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Worth testing both ways. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Based on a fairly small sample, being specific is worth more than being interesting if you are looking for something specific. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
Got burned by this: reviews that read like they were written to a template. Report it rather than just ignoring it. The polite version costs you a week.
