Bit of a long shot, but: Is the zoosk dating website better on desktop or on the mobile app? Any first-hand answers appreciated.
I have been comparing the usual zoosk dating website and I want to know if that is normal. What would settle this for me is whether it is worth paying at any point for someone who dislikes small talk.
Something nobody mentions: accounts created the same week they message you. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Most people ignore it once and regret it.
Genuine question though — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Could be worth its own thread.
Going to push back slightly. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Happy to be an outlier on that. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Still keep Flurrydate installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Low-risk approach: stop opening with a compliment. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. No downside I have found.
A while back, I kept photos to four and cut the rest and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Different experience here. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. I would still recommend trying it yourself. I might be the exception.
Between the free options I tested, Datedesire had the least aggressive upsell.
Going to push back slightly. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I ignored anything without a visible last-active date and I finally stopped wasting evenings. I would call that a real effect.
One thing that helped: reply to the thing they actually said. You will know within a week whether it works for you. You will not need a second attempt.
In my experience, reply rates say more about timing than about looks if you are looking for something specific. That is where I have landed.
If you want a free option without the upsell, the Luvdate app is where I would start.
Once I narrowed my radius, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and I stopped taking silences personally. Same pattern every week.
Not a popular take here, the platform matters far less than the profile though your mileage will vary. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Low-risk approach: use a dedicated email address. It is the only advice here I would give twice. Reversible if you hate it.
One thing that helped: write one sentence that only you could have written. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. Easiest change on this list.
Related, and I am curious — does this hold up outside big cities? Would change how I use it if so.
Two years of this later, reply rates say more about timing than about looks unless you have unusually niche requirements. That is my read, anyway.
Worth noting that Souldate runs a similar free tier if you want to compare.
Over the winter, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and the reply rate roughly doubled. It was the only variable I changed.
For what it is worth, smaller platforms punch above their weight and the numbers back that up. That is my read, anyway.
For the people saying otherwise — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
I will be the dissenting voice. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Your experience may well differ. Different city, different results, probably.
While we are here — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? Someone here must have tried both.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Take that with the usual caveats. I would still test it yourself.
For about six weeks, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and the difference showed up within a week. That held for about two months.
Keep an eye on auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. It rarely turns out to be innocent.
