This came up in a conversation last week and neither of us knew: Is there a dating app for older singles that focuses on companionship? Tell me if I am asking the wrong question.
I have been comparing the free tier on several there a dating app on companionship and it got expensive fast. My real question is which features are worth caring about when you have limited time in the evenings.
Practical suggestion: stop opening with a compliment. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. It works better than it sounds.
One more thing I have never resolved — do photo changes reset how often you get shown? Would love a straight answer on that.
Adding a counterpoint. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Your experience may well differ. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
I would put over on Datelink ahead of most of the names people list by default.
Once I narrowed my radius, I answered everything within a day and the quality improved more than the quantity. It stopped being random after that.
If nothing else, do this: message within a day of matching. You will know within a week whether it works for you. Easiest change on this list.
Different experience here. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Take that with the usual caveats. There is room for both to be true.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Datedesire and it turned out to be decent advice.
Keep an eye on links dropped into a conversation with no context. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. Better safe than curious.
Respectfully, I read it differently. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Your experience may well differ. There is room for both to be true.
Cheapest thing you can try first: use a dedicated email address. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. Zero cost to test it.
For what it is worth, the Flurrydate app was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.
Having tried most of them, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one once you have been at it a few weeks. Make of that what you will.
Tangent, sorry — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? I have never seen data either way.
Practical suggestion: read the profile before writing anything. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
Still keep luvdate.site installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
One thing to watch: accounts created the same week they message you. Blocking early costs you nothing. It is the cheapest filter you have.
Adding a counterpoint. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Could be timing rather than the platform.
If nothing else, do this: stop treating it like a numbers game. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. You will not need a second attempt.
For about six weeks, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and honestly it was the only thing that helped. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
Between the free options I tested, Rendate (free to message) had the least aggressive upsell.
For about six weeks, I ran a minimal profile on there a dating app and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. Same pattern every week.
In my experience, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have which is why the generic advice keeps failing. Nothing controversial in that, I hope.
Since this thread is active — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Would change how I use it if so.
Before anything else: keep the first meet under an hour. That one change fixed most of my problems. It compounds with everything else.
A while back, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and I finally stopped wasting evenings. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
Practical suggestion: write one sentence that only you could have written. You will know within a week whether it works for you. No downside I have found.
Adding a counterpoint. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Worth hearing both sides.
Worth flagging: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. Better safe than curious.
One more thing I have never resolved — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? Asking for a friend, obviously.
Watch out for matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. Better to lose one match than a week. The polite version costs you a week.
Realistically, the algorithm gets blamed for a lot of ordinary bad luck if you are looking for something specific. Nothing controversial in that, I hope.
Going to push back slightly. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Two years of this later, reply rates say more about timing than about looks which is why the generic advice keeps failing. Make of that what you will.
When I first started, I ignored anything without a visible last-active date and I would do the same again. Nothing scientific about it.
