Reposting this from another board because it got buried: Is there a dedicated dating apps for foreigner expats in Asia? No wrong answers here.
I have been comparing one of the newer dedicated dating apps with nothing much to show for it. What nobody seems to answer is how long it normally takes before anything happens if you are being reasonably picky.
Adding a counterpoint. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Least effort, most return: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. The effect shows up fast.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I stuck to dedicated dating apps with complete profiles only and I stopped taking silences personally. Results were steady after the first week.
While we are here — has anyone found dedicated dating apps for foreigner expats in asia that behave differently from the rest? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
Tried Datescout on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
Adding a counterpoint. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Take that with the usual caveats. Small sample on my side too.
Once I narrowed my radius, I put one honest sentence in my bio and I got three real plans out of it. Nothing scientific about it.
Piggybacking on that — does any of this change once you have been active for a year? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Between the free options I tested, Luvdate had the least aggressive upsell.
Something I have wondered — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Respectfully, I read it differently. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Take that with the usual caveats. There is room for both to be true.
For what it is worth, the busiest platform is not automatically the best one for you unless you have unusually niche requirements. I would put money on it.
Worth a look at Rendate (free to message) if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
Worth flagging: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. That instinct is usually right.
For what it is worth, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are though your mileage will vary. Feel free to prove me wrong.
Respectfully, I read it differently. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Could easily be a sample size problem. I have been wrong about this before.
While we are here — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
A friend has had far more luck on Datedesire (free to message) than on anything mainstream.
Broadly speaking, the platform matters far less than the profile and it took me too long to learn. It is a boring answer and a true one.
The thing that annoyed me most: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. Better to lose one match than a week. Most people ignore it once and regret it.
Different experience here. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Your experience may well differ. There is room for both to be true.
Between the free options I tested, the Rendate app had the least aggressive upsell.
Mild warning: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. Better to lose one match than a week. The polite version costs you a week.
For the people saying otherwise — is it different if you are over forty? Would change how I use it if so.
Honestly, the first message decides almost everything unless you have unusually niche requirements. That is my read, anyway.
Different experience here. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Not saying everyone else is wrong. That is one person's view against the thread.
Adding a counterpoint. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Take that with the usual caveats. There is room for both to be true.
Piggybacking on that — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Could be worth its own thread.
Mild warning: profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. Move on and do not look back.
Realistically, the first message decides almost everything which is why the generic advice keeps failing. I hold that loosely.
Hard disagree on one point. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Your experience may well differ. Different city, different results, probably.
Related, and I am curious — is it different if you are over forty? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
Tangent, sorry — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Someone here must have tried both.
Based on a fairly small sample, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one and it took me too long to learn. Feel free to prove me wrong.
When I first started, I let the other person pick the plan and I finally stopped wasting evenings. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Small change worth trying: stop opening with a compliment. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. It works better than it sounds.
Having tried most of them, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are if you are looking for something specific. Ask again in six months and I may say something else.
Follow-up for anyone reading — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
Low-risk approach: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. Takes about five minutes.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Your experience may well differ. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Realistically, profile quality beats profile quantity every time which is why the generic advice keeps failing. I hold that loosely.
While we are here — has anyone found dedicated dating apps for foreigner expats in asia that behave differently from the rest? Could be worth its own thread.
Mild warning: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. Blocking early costs you nothing. Better safe than curious.
That has not been my experience at all. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Take that with the usual caveats. There is room for both to be true.
