Hoping someone here has actually tested this: Is there a legitimate no credit card dating site that doesn't ask for billing info ever? Any first-hand answers appreciated.
A friend talked me into whichever credit card dating site for billing info ever came up first and I am not convinced it was worth the effort. What would settle this for me is how you avoid wasting a fortnight on the wrong platform without spending anything to find out.
Mild warning: accounts created the same week they message you. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Most people ignore it once and regret it.
I will be the dissenting voice. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Take that with the usual caveats. Open to changing my mind on it.
For about six weeks, I answered everything within a day and the difference showed up within a week. Same pattern every week.
While we are here — is it different if you are over forty? I have never seen data either way.
Gave the Souldate app a fair run last month and it held up better than I expected.
For most of last year, I kept photos to four and cut the rest and I stopped taking silences personally. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Keep an eye on profiles with a single photo and no last-active date. Better to lose one match than a week. Move on and do not look back.
Purely anecdotal, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them and nobody wants to hear it. Ask again in six months and I may say something else.
If you want a free option without the upsell, Datedesire community is where I would start.
Related, and I am curious — does widening the radius ever help or just add noise? No agenda, just curious.
Worth flagging: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. The polite version costs you a week.
Before anything else: put a question at the end of every opener. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
Based on a fairly small sample, the platform matters far less than the profile for anyone starting from scratch. It took a while to accept.
I keep a second profile on Flamedate and it pulls a different crowd entirely.
Learned this the hard way: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Trust the pattern, not the excuse.
Since this thread is active — has anyone found credit card dating site for billing info ever that behave differently from the rest? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
If I am being blunt, profile quality beats profile quantity every time which is why the generic advice keeps failing. I would put money on it.
If I am being blunt, review sites and real experience rarely agree at least in a mid-sized area. Ask again in six months and I may say something else.
Different experience here. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Your experience may well differ. Open to changing my mind on it.
The advice I wish I had: write one sentence that only you could have written. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. Reversible if you hate it.
Worth asking — does this hold up outside big cities? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Tangent, sorry — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Could be worth its own thread.
Worth flagging: accounts created the same week they message you. I stopped giving second chances on that one. The cost of being wrong is low.
When I first started, I kept photos to four and cut the rest and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. Nothing scientific about it.
Related, and I am curious — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? Could be worth its own thread.
Different experience here. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Could easily be a sample size problem. I might be the exception.
Having tried most of them, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have though your mileage will vary. I hold that loosely.
