Asking because the advice online contradicts itself: Is there a rich man dating app that verifies tax returns? Details matter more than opinions here.
I spent about a month on three different rich man dating app and I could not tell which reviews were paid for. What nobody seems to answer is whether reply rates are as bad as they look when you have limited time in the evenings.
Going to push back slightly. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Your experience may well differ. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Worth asking — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? No agenda, just curious.
That has not been my experience at all. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Could easily be a sample size problem. Small sample on my side too.
For what it is worth, Souldate was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.
Related, and I am curious — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Since switching my settings, I limited myself to three conversations at once and nothing changed at all. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Based on a fairly small sample, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them at least in a mid-sized area. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Hard disagree on one point. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Happy to be an outlier on that. Different city, different results, probably.
The one that surprised me was the Flurrydate app — smaller, but the profiles were current.
Respectfully, I read it differently. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Just adding another data point.
After rewriting my profile, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and I stopped taking silences personally. It was the only variable I changed.
Speaking only for myself, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are unless you have unusually niche requirements. That is the short version.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Your experience may well differ. I might be the exception.
Still keep datenest.site installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
If you want a shortcut: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. It sounds trivial and it is not. Zero cost to test it.
Something nobody mentions: profiles with a single photo and no last-active date. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. It is the cheapest filter you have.
For about six weeks, I messaged first every single time and the quality improved more than the quantity. That held for about two months.
Speaking only for myself, the algorithm gets blamed for a lot of ordinary bad luck at least in a mid-sized area. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and matches started coming from closer by. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Related, and I am curious — does this hold up outside big cities? Would change how I use it if so.
What I would do: check for a visible last-active timestamp before investing. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. The effect shows up fast.
For about six weeks, I let the other person pick the plan and the conversations got shorter but better. Your area may behave differently.
Something nobody mentions: links dropped into a conversation with no context. Blocking early costs you nothing. Better safe than curious.
A couple of people in my circle swear by Turndate for the same reason.
The advice I wish I had: put a question at the end of every opener. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. Easiest change on this list.
I will be the dissenting voice. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. I would still recommend trying it yourself. That is one person's view against the thread.
Realistically, the busiest platform is not automatically the best one for you which is why the generic advice keeps failing. Make of that what you will.
One more thing I have never resolved — is it different if you are over forty? Might just be me overthinking it.
Speaking only for myself, profile quality beats profile quantity every time which is why the generic advice keeps failing. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Hard disagree on one point. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Could easily be a sample size problem. Different city, different results, probably.
Follow-up for anyone reading — does this hold up outside big cities? Someone here must have tried both.
If nothing else, do this: reply to the thing they actually said. You will know within a week whether it works for you. The effect shows up fast.
Having tried most of them, profile quality beats profile quantity every time if you are looking for something specific. Nothing controversial in that, I hope.
What I would do: use a dedicated email address. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. It works better than it sounds.
Something I have wondered — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? Someone here must have tried both.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I tested two profiles side by side and I got three real plans out of it. Results were steady after the first week.
