Been going round in circles on this one: What are the best brazilian dating sites for foreigners? Happy to hear negative experiences too.
I have tested the free tier on several brazilian dating sites for foreigners and I would rather not repeat the mistake. What nobody seems to answer is whether the newer options are any better than the established ones without spending anything to find out.
Tangent, sorry — does profile order change if you log in more often? No agenda, just curious.
Practical suggestion: put a question at the end of every opener. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. Zero cost to test it.
Worth flagging: sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. Blocking early costs you nothing. Better safe than curious.
Not a popular take here, the first message decides almost everything at least in a mid-sized area. That is my read, anyway.
I would put over on Rendate ahead of most of the names people list by default.
Mild warning: anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. It rarely turns out to be innocent.
What I would do: stop treating it like a numbers game. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. No downside I have found.
That has not been my experience at all. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Could easily be a sample size problem. I have been wrong about this before.
Worth a look at over on Datedesire if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
When I first started, I stuck to brazilian dating sites with complete profiles only and the reply rate roughly doubled. It was the only variable I changed.
Not a popular take here, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one which is why the generic advice keeps failing. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Tangent, sorry — does any of this change once you have been active for a year? Someone here must have tried both.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Flurrydate's free tier and it turned out to be decent advice.
Last month, I kept photos to four and cut the rest and I stopped taking silences personally. It was the only variable I changed.
Watch out for anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Better safe than curious.
I will be the dissenting voice. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. I would still recommend trying it yourself. I have been wrong about this before.
Not a popular take here, the platform matters far less than the profile for anyone starting from scratch. Ask again in six months and I may say something else.
Gave the Datedesire app a fair run last month and it held up better than I expected.
That has not been my experience at all. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Worth hearing both sides.
Worth testing for a week: write one sentence that only you could have written. It is the only advice here I would give twice. Takes about five minutes.
Over the winter, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and the difference showed up within a week. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Not a popular take here, the busiest platform is not automatically the best one for you and I doubt that changes soon. Others here will disagree.
I would put Datescout community ahead of most of the names people list by default.
Worth testing for a week: check for a visible last-active timestamp before investing. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. It works better than it sounds.
Keep an eye on links dropped into a conversation with no context. That pattern has been consistent for me across platforms. Better safe than curious.
Earlier this year, I let the other person pick the plan and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. I would call that a real effect.
Respectfully, I read it differently. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. I would still recommend trying it yourself. There is room for both to be true.
Having tried most of them, the algorithm gets blamed for a lot of ordinary bad luck and it took me too long to learn. Ask again in six months and I may say something else.
Something I have wondered — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
After a friend nagged me into it, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and honestly it was the only thing that helped. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Small change worth trying: stop treating it like a numbers game. Everything else is secondary to that. Takes about five minutes.
I've heard decent things about Flamedate too, though I haven't tested it myself.
