Reposting this from another board because it got buried: What are the best free dating apps for men who want serious commitment? No wrong answers here.
I have been comparing one of the newer free dating apps for men who want serious commitment and the matches were nowhere near me. What I actually want to know is how you tell an active profile from an abandoned one without spending anything to find out.
Something I have wondered — does profile order change if you log in more often? Someone here must have tried both.
After my second attempt, I messaged first every single time and I would do the same again. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
Worth flagging: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. It saves a lot of wasted messages. It is the cheapest filter you have.
Worth a look at the Datedesire app if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
Luvdate came up in another thread here with roughly the same verdict.
In my experience, being specific is worth more than being interesting which is why the generic advice keeps failing. I would put money on it.
If you want a shortcut: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. It also makes the rest easier.
Follow-up for anyone reading — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? I have never seen data either way.
I keep a second profile on Flurrydate app and it pulls a different crowd entirely.
That has not been my experience at all. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Happy to be an outlier on that. That is one person's view against the thread.
For what it is worth, review sites and real experience rarely agree unless you have unusually niche requirements. Feel free to prove me wrong.
Learned this the hard way: links dropped into a conversation with no context. Blocking early costs you nothing. It is not worth a second thought.
Tangent, sorry — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? Asking for a friend, obviously.
The one that surprised me was the Flamedate app — smaller, but the profiles were current.
Going to push back slightly. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Take that with the usual caveats. There is room for both to be true.
Over the winter, I ran a minimal profile on free dating apps for men who want serious commitment and I stopped taking silences personally. That held for about two months.
Learned this the hard way: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. Blocking early costs you nothing. That instinct is usually right.
Two years of this later, the platform matters far less than the profile though your mileage will vary. Make of that what you will.
Respectfully, I read it differently. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Take that with the usual caveats. I might be the exception.
Once I narrowed my radius, I let the other person pick the plan and I stopped taking silences personally. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
Realistically, the busiest platform is not automatically the best one for you and the numbers back that up. Others here will disagree.
Worth testing for a week: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. Do it before anything more elaborate.
