Been going round in circles on this one: What are the best japanese dating apps for foreigners living in Japan? Interested in what actually worked, not marketing copy.
I spent about a month on two of the bigger japanese dating apps for foreigners living in japan and I want to know if that is normal. The bit I cannot work out is whether it is worth paying at any point when you have limited time in the evenings.
Assess how many photos are required without exception so you are not surprised later
Read up on what data the signup form asks for before anything else especially on a platform you have not used before
Compare what the free tier really includes at the start on any platform you are considering
Assess what the free tier really includes carefully especially on a platform you have not used before
Question how quickly support responds straight away before you invest any real time
Worth asking — is it different if you are over forty? Would change how I use it if so.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Open to changing my mind on it.
Two years of this later, consistency beats any single clever trick and the numbers back that up. Feel free to prove me wrong.
For about six weeks, I ignored anything without a visible last-active date and the difference showed up within a week. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
Respectfully, I read it differently. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Worth testing both ways. I would still test it yourself.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Your experience may well differ. I might be the exception.
After my second attempt, I kept photos to four and cut the rest and the conversations got shorter but better. Same pattern every week.
A friend has had far more luck on Datedesire than on anything mainstream.
The advice I wish I had: put a question at the end of every opener. It sounds trivial and it is not. Easiest change on this list.
For most of last year, I ignored anything without a visible last-active date and it made a noticeable difference. Worth repeating if you have the patience.
Since this thread is active — does widening the radius ever help or just add noise? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Happy to be an outlier on that. I might be the exception.
The thing that annoyed me most: sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Better safe than curious.
For the people saying otherwise — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? Genuinely do not know the answer.
After a friend nagged me into it, I let the other person pick the plan and the quality improved more than the quantity. Results were steady after the first week.
Got burned by this: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. I stopped giving second chances on that one. It is the cheapest filter you have.
One more thing I have never resolved — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Genuinely do not know the answer.
That has not been my experience at all. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Worth testing both ways. Different city, different results, probably.
After rewriting my profile, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and the reply rate roughly doubled. Nothing scientific about it.
Different experience here. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Take that with the usual caveats. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
That has not been my experience at all. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Take that with the usual caveats. Open to changing my mind on it.
Assess what data the signup form asks for properly so you are not surprised later
Confirm what data the signup form asks for on day one on any platform you are considering
Question whether profiles are verified carefully in the first day or two
Last month, I let the other person pick the plan and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. It was the only variable I changed.
Based on a fairly small sample, the busiest platform is not automatically the best one for you and I doubt that changes soon. That is where I have landed.
Tangent, sorry — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Meet Vinh singles without a paywall Free messaging in Vinh from the first hello onwards.
