Been going round in circles on this one: What are the best korean dating sites for English speakers? Tell me if I am asking the wrong question.
I stopped bothering with the usual korean dating sites for english speakers and I still cannot tell if it is me or the platform. The part that matters to me is whether reply rates are as bad as they look without making it a second job.
Small change worth trying: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. Small sample, but consistent.
Realistically, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are once you have been at it a few weeks. That is my read, anyway.
Keep an eye on matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.
The one that surprised me was the Flamedate app — smaller, but the profiles were current.
Hard disagree on one point. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Might just be my area. Just adding another data point.
Anyone else find that — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
What I would do: write one sentence that only you could have written. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. Zero cost to test it.
Tried Datedesire app on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
Worth noting that Datenest runs a similar free tier if you want to compare.
I will be the dissenting voice. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Your experience may well differ. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
If you want a shortcut: use a dedicated email address. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. Easiest change on this list.
Keep an eye on copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Most people ignore it once and regret it.
A friend has had far more luck on over on Souldate than on anything mainstream.
Hard disagree on one point. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Could easily be a sample size problem. I have been wrong about this before.
Learned this the hard way: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. Report it rather than just ignoring it. The polite version costs you a week.
For the people saying otherwise — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Someone here must have tried both.
Last month, I messaged first every single time and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. Small sample, but consistent.
What I would do: use a dedicated email address. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. It works better than it sounds.
Speaking only for myself, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one at least in a mid-sized area. I hold that loosely.
