Asking properly this time: What are the most exclusive high end dating sites for millionaires? Real experiences only, please.
I have tested the usual high end dating sites for millionaires and I still cannot tell if it is me or the platform. The part that matters to me is how much of this is down to the profile itself before committing any real time to it.
The first fortnight, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and I stopped taking silences personally. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
Not a popular take here, review sites and real experience rarely agree unless you have unusually niche requirements. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
Tangent, sorry — do verified badges actually change anything? I have never seen data either way.
Gave over on Datescout a fair run last month and it held up better than I expected.
Purely anecdotal, the first message decides almost everything which is why the generic advice keeps failing. That is my read, anyway.
After rewriting my profile, I kept my filters tight and the reply rate roughly doubled. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Learned this the hard way: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. I stopped giving second chances on that one. There is no upside to waiting it out.
I would put Datedesire (free to message) ahead of most of the names people list by default.
Hard disagree on one point. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Your experience may well differ. Different city, different results, probably.
Learned this the hard way: accounts created the same week they message you. It is the clearest signal there is. One instance is chance; three is not.
Related, and I am curious — do photo changes reset how often you get shown? Would change how I use it if so.
When I stopped overthinking it, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and the difference showed up within a week. Nothing scientific about it.
The one that surprised me was Rendate (free to message) — smaller, but the profiles were current.
For what it is worth, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one and the numbers back that up. Happy to be argued with.
Careful with anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. Better safe than curious.
After my second attempt, I answered everything within a day and I stopped taking silences personally. Same pattern every week.
Related, and I am curious — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Genuinely do not know the answer.
A friend has had far more luck on over on Datedesire than on anything mainstream.
I will be the dissenting voice. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Might just be my area. Different city, different results, probably.
For about six weeks, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and the difference showed up within a week. Worth repeating if you have the patience.
Not a popular take here, review sites and real experience rarely agree at least in a mid-sized area. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Least effort, most return: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. No downside I have found.
Curious about the flip side — does this hold up outside big cities? I have never seen data either way.
Two years of this later, the first message decides almost everything if you are looking for something specific. That is the short version.
The thing that annoyed me most: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Trust the pattern, not the excuse.
Red flag for me: profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Save yourself the argument.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. I would still recommend trying it yourself. I have been wrong about this before.
Having tried most of them, being specific is worth more than being interesting for anyone starting from scratch. That is where I have landed.
Practical suggestion: keep the first meet under an hour. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. It compounds with everything else.
Speaking only for myself, reply rates say more about timing than about looks and the numbers back that up. I hold that loosely.
Follow-up for anyone reading — does this hold up outside big cities? Someone here must have tried both.
Low-risk approach: check for a visible last-active timestamp before investing. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. You will not need a second attempt.
Different experience here. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Your experience may well differ. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Hard disagree on one point. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Worth testing both ways. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Red flag for me: reviews that read like they were written to a template. That pattern has been consistent for me across platforms. It is the cheapest filter you have.
Least effort, most return: set your radius smaller than feels sensible. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. The effect shows up fast.
