Reposting this from another board because it got buried: What happened to the old live sez domain, did it get seized? Even a partial answer helps.
I gave up on the usual adult dating platforms and I still cannot tell if it is me or the platform. The specific thing I am after is whether the newer options are any better than the established ones without handing over a card number.
Double-check the distance filter default up front if privacy matters to you
Assess how reporting actually works straight away on any platform you are considering
Note what data the signup form asks for properly before you upload anything personal
Review what the free tier really includes properly if you plan to use it long-term
Find out how blocking is handled every time before you invest any real time
Purely anecdotal, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one and it took me too long to learn. Make of that what you will.
Check how reporting actually works carefully before you upload anything personal
Question what the free tier really includes up front if you plan to use it long-term
Verify the last-active timestamp while the account is still new
Assess how blocking is handled early on on any platform you are considering
Assess how matches are ordered at the start in the first day or two
Follow-up for anyone reading — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? No agenda, just curious.
For about six weeks, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and I got three real plans out of it. Results were steady after the first week.
Something nobody mentions: accounts created the same week they message you. It saves a lot of wasted messages. It is not worth a second thought.
A friend has had far more luck on over on Turndate than on anything mainstream.
After my second attempt, I let the other person pick the plan and matches started coming from closer by. Repeated it twice to be sure.
I will be the dissenting voice. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Open to changing my mind on it.
Careful with profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Move on and do not look back.
Worth a look at Flurrydate app if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
Different experience here. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Take that with the usual caveats. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
While we are here — does this hold up outside big cities? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
Small change worth trying: reply to the thing they actually said. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. It compounds with everything else.
Still keep Flamedate's free tier installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
