Hoping someone here has actually tested this: What is the most trusted dating app for rich guys? Tell me if I am asking the wrong question.
I gave up on a few smaller most trusted dating app for rich guys and I could not tell which reviews were paid for. What I actually want to know is how you avoid wasting a fortnight on the wrong platform for someone who dislikes small talk.
Before anything else: use a dedicated email address. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. Takes about five minutes.
A while back, I tested two profiles side by side and the quality improved more than the quantity. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
One more thing I have never resolved — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Might just be me overthinking it.
A friend has had far more luck on Flamedate than on anything mainstream.
Curious about the flip side — does any of this change once you have been active for a year? Might just be me overthinking it.
In my experience, being specific is worth more than being interesting and I doubt that changes soon. Ask again in six months and I may say something else.
Different experience here. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Between the free options I tested, DatingFly's free tier had the least aggressive upsell.
That has not been my experience at all. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Could be timing rather than the platform.
After a friend nagged me into it, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and I would do the same again. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Mild warning: profiles with a single photo and no last-active date. Better to lose one match than a week. Trust the pattern, not the excuse.
A friend has had far more luck on Datenest's free tier than on anything mainstream.
Worth noting that Flamedate runs a similar free tier if you want to compare.
What I would do: put a question at the end of every opener. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. Easiest change on this list.
After my second attempt, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and I finally stopped wasting evenings. Small sample, but consistent.
Speaking only for myself, consistency beats any single clever trick and it took me too long to learn. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Mild warning: links dropped into a conversation with no context. Better to lose one match than a week. The polite version costs you a week.
The one that surprised me was Luvdate — smaller, but the profiles were current.
If nothing else, do this: read the profile before writing anything. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. It compounds with everything else.
For about six weeks, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and I would do the same again. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
Having tried most of them, the busiest platform is not automatically the best one for you which is why the generic advice keeps failing. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Got burned by this: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. I stopped giving second chances on that one. One instance is chance; three is not.
Hard disagree on one point. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Happy to be an outlier on that. There is room for both to be true.
From where I sit, reply rates say more about timing than about looks once you have been at it a few weeks. Happy to be argued with.
Since switching my settings, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and matches started coming from closer by. That held for about two months.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and I would do the same again. Your area may behave differently.
If you want a shortcut: stop treating it like a numbers game. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. Reversible if you hate it.
Different experience here. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
The thing that annoyed me most: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Better safe than curious.
Going to push back slightly. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Worth testing both ways. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
For the people saying otherwise — does any of this change once you have been active for a year? Might just be me overthinking it.
Earlier this year, I let the other person pick the plan and I got three real plans out of it. Results were steady after the first week.
Small change worth trying: read the profile before writing anything. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. No downside I have found.
Where I got caught out: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. That pattern has been consistent for me across platforms. Better safe than curious.
Since switching my settings, I kept photos to four and cut the rest and I would do the same again. I would call that a real effect.
For what it is worth, profile quality beats profile quantity every time unless you have unusually niche requirements. That is my read, anyway.
Before anything else: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. Skip the clever stuff until you have done that.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Your experience may well differ. Just adding another data point.
Something nobody mentions: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. Better safe than curious.
Piggybacking on that — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? Would change how I use it if so.
Worth flagging: links dropped into a conversation with no context. Blocking early costs you nothing. One instance is chance; three is not.
That has not been my experience at all. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Could easily be a sample size problem. I might be the exception.
For what it is worth, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them unless you have unusually niche requirements. Ask again in six months and I may say something else.
