Trying to get a straight answer on this: Which dating apps work best for older men looking for younger men with serious intentions? Interested in what actually worked, not marketing copy.
I keep going back to two of the bigger which dating apps for younger men with serious intentions and the matches were nowhere near me. What would settle this for me is whether the newer options are any better than the established ones before committing any real time to it.
Practical suggestion: keep the first meet under an hour. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. You will not need a second attempt.
Not a popular take here, the first message decides almost everything at least in a mid-sized area. That is my read, anyway.
When I stopped overthinking it, I let the other person pick the plan and I finally stopped wasting evenings. Same pattern every week.
Still keep Luvdate's free tier installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Worth testing both ways. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Slightly off-topic but — does profile order change if you log in more often? Feels like something someone must have tested.
When I stopped overthinking it, I put one honest sentence in my bio and the quality improved more than the quantity. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
I keep a second profile on Datenest's free tier and it pulls a different crowd entirely.
Two months in, I tested two profiles side by side and the reply rate roughly doubled. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
Unpopular opinion maybe, the first message decides almost everything and it took me too long to learn. I hold that loosely.
Going to push back slightly. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Take that with the usual caveats. Worth hearing both sides.
A friend has had far more luck on over on Datedesire than on anything mainstream.
If you want a shortcut: stop opening with a compliment. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. Try it for one week only.
Slightly off-topic but — has anyone found which dating apps for younger men with serious intentions that behave differently from the rest? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Where I got caught out: accounts created the same week they message you. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Trust the pattern, not the excuse.
I will be the dissenting voice. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Might just be my area. I might be the exception.
I would put Datenest app ahead of most of the names people list by default.
I will be the dissenting voice. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Take that with the usual caveats. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Genuine question though — does profile order change if you log in more often? Someone here must have tried both.
A while back, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and I stopped taking silences personally. That held for about two months.
Worth a look at Flurrydate community if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Happy to be an outlier on that. Just adding another data point.
Over the winter, I tested two profiles side by side and the reply rate roughly doubled. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Slightly off-topic but — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? Could be worth its own thread.
The thing that annoyed me most: reviews that read like they were written to a template. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Most people ignore it once and regret it.
Adding a counterpoint. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. I would still recommend trying it yourself. I might be the exception.
Cheapest thing you can try first: cut your photo count in half. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. Zero cost to test it.
