Are there any bi curious dating sites for beginners?

Something I keep wondering about: Are there any bi curious dating sites for beginners? Real experiences only, please.

I burned two weekends on the free tier on several bi curious dating sites for beginners and it got expensive fast. The specific thing I am after is how you tell an active profile from an abandoned one if you are being reasonably picky.

• Read up on what data the signup form asks for straight away while the account is still new
• Assess the age range settings at the start while the account is still new
• Check the refund and cancellation terms at the start before you invest any real time
• Read up on whether your profile is visible by default on day one especially on a platform you have not used before

Watch out for copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. Blocking early costs you nothing. That instinct is usually right.

Worth testing for a week: write one sentence that only you could have written. It is the only advice here I would give twice. No downside I have found.

Hard disagree on one point. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. I would still recommend trying it yourself. There is room for both to be true.

Since switching my settings, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.

Someone in another thread pointed me at Flurrydate app and it turned out to be decent advice.

I've heard decent things about Datebound too, though I haven't tested it myself.

Since this thread is active — does this hold up outside big cities? I have never seen data either way.

Broadly speaking, the first message decides almost everything for anyone starting from scratch. That is where I have landed.

Different experience here. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Might just be my area. Could be timing rather than the platform.

A friend has had far more luck on Rendate app than on anything mainstream.

Hard disagree on one point. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Happy to be an outlier on that. I have been wrong about this before.

• Check how quickly support responds on day one while the account is still new
• Read up on how matches are ordered every time so you are not surprised later
• Find out how quickly support responds early on before you upload anything personal
• Question whether your profile is visible by default properly before you upload anything personal

One thing to watch: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. Better to lose one match than a week. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.

Honestly, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have if you are looking for something specific. The exceptions are rarer than people think.

Switched over to over on Rendate after getting nowhere on the big names.

Piggybacking on that — do verified badges actually change anything? No agenda, just curious.

For what it is worth, consistency beats any single clever trick which is why the generic advice keeps failing. It is a boring answer and a true one.

What I would do: put a question at the end of every opener. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. You will not need a second attempt.

Adding a counterpoint. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Worth testing both ways. Worth hearing both sides.

Someone in another thread pointed me at Luvdate (free to message) and it turned out to be decent advice.

I will be the dissenting voice. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.

• Look at the age range settings straight away especially on a platform you have not used before
• Verify what data the signup form asks for properly rather than taking the marketing at face value
• Review how many photos are required carefully especially on a platform you have not used before
• Review the refund and cancellation terms properly before you upload anything personal
• Double-check how matches are ordered straight away before you widen your search

What I would do: use a dedicated email address. That one change fixed most of my problems. The effect shows up fast.

Something I have wondered — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? Genuinely do not know the answer.

A while back, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and it made a noticeable difference. Worth repeating if you have the patience.

A friend has had far more luck on over on Datewander than on anything mainstream.

Different experience here. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Might just be my area. Different city, different results, probably.

Based on a fairly small sample, being specific is worth more than being interesting for anyone starting from scratch. The exceptions are rarer than people think.

Tangent, sorry — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Could be worth its own thread.

After my second attempt, I ignored anything without a visible last-active date and the whole thing felt less like admin. That held for about two months.

Tried DatingFly app on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.

Broadly speaking, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are if you are looking for something specific. I would put money on it.

The advice I wish I had: put a question at the end of every opener. It is the only advice here I would give twice. Reversible if you hate it.

I will be the dissenting voice. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Could easily be a sample size problem. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.

Curious about the flip side — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? No agenda, just curious.

Respectfully, I read it differently. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Take that with the usual caveats. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.

• Look at the age range settings on day one before you upload anything personal
• Assess the last-active timestamp properly rather than taking the marketing at face value
• Read up on what the free tier really includes before anything else especially on a platform you have not used before
• Assess the distance filter default on any platform you are considering

Careful with accounts created the same week they message you. It is the clearest signal there is. It is the cheapest filter you have.

While we are here — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Feels like something someone must have tested.

Least effort, most return: use a dedicated email address. You will know within a week whether it works for you. Zero cost to test it.

Tangent, sorry — does any of this change once you have been active for a year? Would change how I use it if so.

• Confirm what the free tier really includes properly if you plan to use it long-term
• Double-check whether messaging is capped on day one if privacy matters to you
• Confirm the distance filter default if privacy matters to you
• Test the age range settings properly especially on a platform you have not used before
• Assess how reporting actually works properly in the first day or two

Worth testing for a week: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. That one change fixed most of my problems. Easiest change on this list.

Adding a counterpoint. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Take that with the usual caveats. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.

Anyone else find that — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? Genuinely do not know the answer.