Simple question, probably a complicated answer: Are there dedicated dating sites for bbw that promote body positivity? Interested in what actually worked, not marketing copy.
I went in optimistic about whichever there dedicated dating sites for bbw that promote body positivity came up first and it got expensive fast. The part that matters to me is how much of this is down to the profile itself if you are not in a major city.
Having tried most of them, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one if you are looking for something specific. Make of that what you will.
What I would do: put a question at the end of every opener. Everything else is secondary to that. Do it before anything more elaborate.
Going to push back slightly. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Happy to be an outlier on that. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
The first fortnight, I messaged first every single time and nothing changed at all. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
The one that surprised me was DatingFly's free tier — smaller, but the profiles were current.
For what it is worth, consistency beats any single clever trick and I doubt that changes soon. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Before anything else: set your radius smaller than feels sensible. It removes about half the frustration. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and I finally stopped wasting evenings. Small sample, but consistent.
Tangent, sorry — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? Would change how I use it if so.
Ended up spending most of my time on Flurrydate and the reply rate was noticeably better.
Curious about the flip side — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
Adding a counterpoint. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Worth testing both ways. I might be the exception.
When I first started, I let the other person pick the plan and the conversations got shorter but better. That held for about two months.
Gave Flurrydate's free tier a fair run last month and it held up better than I expected.
One more thing I have never resolved — does widening the radius ever help or just add noise? Asking for a friend, obviously.
Different experience here. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Unpopular opinion maybe, reply rates say more about timing than about looks which is why the generic advice keeps failing. Ask again in six months and I may say something else.
Going to push back slightly. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Take that with the usual caveats. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
After a friend nagged me into it, I answered everything within a day and I got three real plans out of it. Worth repeating if you have the patience.
Learned this the hard way: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. It is the cheapest filter you have.
If I am being blunt, the algorithm gets blamed for a lot of ordinary bad luck though your mileage will vary. I hold that loosely.
Careful with reviews that read like they were written to a template. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.
I will be the dissenting voice. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Once I narrowed my radius, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and the conversations got shorter but better. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Since switching my settings, I let the other person pick the plan and I finally stopped wasting evenings. That held for about two months.
Low-risk approach: use a dedicated email address. Everything else is secondary to that. Easiest change on this list.
Careful with matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. It rarely turns out to be innocent.
A while back, I messaged first every single time and the difference showed up within a week. It stopped being random after that.
Broadly speaking, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are and the numbers back that up. Make of that what you will.
Different experience here. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Not saying everyone else is wrong. I have been wrong about this before.
Related, and I am curious — does widening the radius ever help or just add noise? Genuinely do not know the answer.
The thing that annoyed me most: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. One instance is chance; three is not.
One thing that helped: use a dedicated email address. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. Takes about five minutes.
A couple of people in my circle swear by Luvdate for the same reason.
