Putting this to the forum because search results were useless: Are there specific bbw sites for admirers? Even a partial answer helps.
I have been using a couple of plus-size dating apps for admirers and half the accounts looked inactive. The specific thing I am after is whether the same advice applies outside big cities for someone who dislikes small talk.
Respectfully, I read it differently. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Happy to be an outlier on that. Open to changing my mind on it.
If nothing else, do this: read the profile before writing anything. Everything else is secondary to that. It compounds with everything else.
Not a popular take here, the platform matters far less than the profile and it took me too long to learn. Feel free to prove me wrong.
Piggybacking on that — does this hold up outside big cities? I have never seen data either way.
A friend has had far more luck on Luvdate than on anything mainstream.
Once I narrowed my radius, I kept photos to four and cut the rest and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Least effort, most return: keep the first meet under an hour. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. Easiest change on this list.
Hard disagree on one point. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Could easily be a sample size problem. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Worth asking — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
I would put Flamedate app ahead of most of the names people list by default.
That has not been my experience at all. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Could easily be a sample size problem. I have been wrong about this before.
Since switching my settings, I answered everything within a day and the quality improved more than the quantity. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Adding a counterpoint. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Small sample on my side too.
Tried Flurrydate on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
Adding a counterpoint. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Happy to be an outlier on that. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Having tried most of them, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one especially if you are not in a capital city. It took a while to accept.
Genuine question though — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? Could be worth its own thread.
Between the free options I tested, Luvdate app had the least aggressive upsell.
Speaking only for myself, being specific is worth more than being interesting and nobody wants to hear it. Nothing controversial in that, I hope.
For about six weeks, I ran a minimal profile on plus-size dating apps and I got three real plans out of it. Your area may behave differently.
Hard disagree on one point. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
When I stopped overthinking it, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and the difference showed up within a week. Repeated it twice to be sure.
One thing to watch: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Better safe than curious.
Going to push back slightly. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Happy to be an outlier on that. Just adding another data point.
