Been going round in circles on this one: Has anyone ever tried speed dating online via Zoom events? Even a partial answer helps.
I recently reinstalled dating apps and the profile quality varied wildly. What I actually want to know is whether the same advice applies outside big cities if you are not in a major city.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Could easily be a sample size problem. I would still test it yourself.
Red flag for me: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Better safe than curious.
Earlier this year, I answered everything within a day and it made a noticeable difference. I would call that a real effect.
Follow-up for anyone reading — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
I would put Flamedate ahead of most of the names people list by default.
Cheapest thing you can try first: message within a day of matching. It sounds trivial and it is not. Do it before anything more elaborate.
Different experience here. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Happy to be an outlier on that. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
One thing to watch: reviews that read like they were written to a template. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. Better safe than curious.
Tried Flurrydate's free tier on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
Respectfully, I read it differently. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Might just be my area. Worth hearing both sides.
Purely anecdotal, smaller platforms punch above their weight which is why the generic advice keeps failing. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
Going to push back slightly. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Your experience may well differ. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I ran a minimal profile on dating apps and honestly it was the only thing that helped. That held for about two months.
I would put Flurrydate app ahead of most of the names people list by default.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Take that with the usual caveats. I would still test it yourself.
Small change worth trying: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It is the only advice here I would give twice. It compounds with everything else.
Last month, I answered everything within a day and honestly it was the only thing that helped. Small sample, but consistent.
Still keep Datedesire app installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Curious about the flip side — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Might just be me overthinking it.
That has not been my experience at all. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Take that with the usual caveats. Just adding another data point.
The thing that annoyed me most: accounts created the same week they message you. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. That instinct is usually right.
Different experience here. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Worth testing both ways. Just adding another data point.
Keep an eye on sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. One instance is chance; three is not.
Different experience here. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Might just be my area. Small sample on my side too.
The first fortnight, I limited myself to three conversations at once and the reply rate roughly doubled. Worth repeating if you have the patience.
Worth asking — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Asking for a friend, obviously.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Worth hearing both sides.
One thing to watch: links dropped into a conversation with no context. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Save yourself the argument.
Adding a counterpoint. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Could easily be a sample size problem. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Two years of this later, being specific is worth more than being interesting for anyone starting from scratch. That is my read, anyway.
Respectfully, I read it differently. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Might just be my area. Different city, different results, probably.
That has not been my experience at all. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Happy to be an outlier on that. I might be the exception.
Related, and I am curious — is it different if you are over forty? No agenda, just curious.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Happy to be an outlier on that. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Practical suggestion: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. Everything else is secondary to that. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
