This came up in a conversation last week and neither of us knew: Has anyone used the black singles meet app recently, and is it active? Not looking for a sales pitch.
I have had mixed results with a few smaller adult dating platforms and I would rather not repeat the mistake. The specific thing I am after is how much of this is down to the profile itself without handing over a card number.
Hard disagree on one point. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Could easily be a sample size problem. There is room for both to be true.
Before anything else: message within a day of matching. Everything else is secondary to that. Try it for one week only.
Broadly speaking, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have unless you have unusually niche requirements. Happy to be argued with.
Gave Souldate app a fair run last month and it held up better than I expected.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Unpopular opinion maybe, the platform matters far less than the profile unless you have unusually niche requirements. That is where I have landed.
Anyone else find that — do photo changes reset how often you get shown? Could be worth its own thread.
Worth a look at the DatingFly app if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
Least effort, most return: keep the first meet under an hour. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. Easiest change on this list.
Related, and I am curious — do verified badges actually change anything? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Watch out for sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Better safe than curious.
The one that surprised me was Flurrydate community — smaller, but the profiles were current.
I've heard decent things about Rendate too, though I haven't tested it myself.
Going to push back slightly. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. I would still recommend trying it yourself. There is room for both to be true.
If you want a shortcut: use a dedicated email address. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. Easiest change on this list.
For what it is worth, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have and it took me too long to learn. That is where I have landed.
Related, and I am curious — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Would change how I use it if so.
For what it is worth, the Flurrydate app was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.
Worth asking — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? Genuinely do not know the answer.
Different experience here. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Take that with the usual caveats. I have been wrong about this before.
Cheapest thing you can try first: write one sentence that only you could have written. It sounds trivial and it is not. Try it for one week only.
I keep a second profile on DatingFly (free to message) and it pulls a different crowd entirely.
From where I sit, being specific is worth more than being interesting and I doubt that changes soon. I hold that loosely.
For the people saying otherwise — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? No agenda, just curious.
Something nobody mentions: accounts created the same week they message you. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Trust the pattern, not the excuse.
Going to push back slightly. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Might just be my area. Worth hearing both sides.
If you want a free option without the upsell, over on Datenest is where I would start.
After my second attempt, I limited myself to three conversations at once and I would do the same again. Repeated it twice to be sure.
That has not been my experience at all. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Take that with the usual caveats. There is room for both to be true.
Tangent, sorry — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Asking for a friend, obviously.
Keep an eye on anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. Better safe than curious.
