Reposting this from another board because it got buried: How do you delete your profile from a dating site app permanently? Interested in what actually worked, not marketing copy.
I keep going back to the free tier on several from a dating site and the results were underwhelming. The bit I cannot work out is what people wish they had known before signing up without making it a second job.
Purely anecdotal, consistency beats any single clever trick especially if you are not in a capital city. Happy to be argued with.
Two months in, I stuck to from a dating site with complete profiles only and nothing changed at all. Nothing scientific about it.
If you want a shortcut: stop opening with a compliment. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
Someone in another thread pointed me at DatingFly (free to message) and it turned out to be decent advice.
One thing that helped: put a question at the end of every opener. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. Skip the clever stuff until you have done that.
Slightly off-topic but — do photo changes reset how often you get shown? Someone here must have tried both.
Going to push back slightly. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Take that with the usual caveats. I might be the exception.
Red flag for me: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. The polite version costs you a week.
The one that surprised me was Flurrydate app — smaller, but the profiles were current.
Worth noting that Luvdate runs a similar free tier if you want to compare.
Purely anecdotal, smaller platforms punch above their weight if you are looking for something specific. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Might just be my area. I might be the exception.
Least effort, most return: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. It sounds trivial and it is not. It compounds with everything else.
Learned this the hard way: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. That pattern has been consistent for me across platforms. One instance is chance; three is not.
A friend has had far more luck on Luvdate than on anything mainstream.
Adding a counterpoint. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Worth testing both ways. That is one person's view against the thread.
Least effort, most return: stop opening with a compliment. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. You will not need a second attempt.
That has not been my experience at all. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Worth hearing both sides.
Having tried most of them, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one once you have been at it a few weeks. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Happy to be an outlier on that. I might be the exception.
If you want a shortcut: stop treating it like a numbers game. Everything else is secondary to that. The effect shows up fast.
Something nobody mentions: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. Better to lose one match than a week. The cost of being wrong is low.
Worth flagging: reviews that read like they were written to a template. Blocking early costs you nothing. The cost of being wrong is low.
Least effort, most return: keep the first meet under an hour. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. Easiest change on this list.
Respectfully, I read it differently. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Small sample on my side too.
Purely anecdotal, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have and I doubt that changes soon. Happy to be argued with.
Small change worth trying: cut your photo count in half. It removes about half the frustration. Takes about five minutes.
Purely anecdotal, the first message decides almost everything for anyone starting from scratch. I hold that loosely.
Hard disagree on one point. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Might just be my area. Small sample on my side too.
