Straightforward question: How do you find a rich guys dating app that isn't full of fake profiles? Tell me if I am asking the wrong question.
I gave up on one of the newer rich guys dating app and the profile quality varied wildly. The specific thing I am after is whether the free option is genuinely usable without spending anything to find out.
The first fortnight, I let the other person pick the plan and the reply rate roughly doubled. That held for about two months.
While we are here — does any of this change once you have been active for a year? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Watch out for accounts created the same week they message you. It is the clearest signal there is. It is the cheapest filter you have.
Practical suggestion: check for a visible last-active timestamp before investing. It is the only advice here I would give twice. The effect shows up fast.
Still keep Flamedate's free tier installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Hard disagree on one point. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. I would still recommend trying it yourself. There is room for both to be true.
Red flag for me: sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. That pattern has been consistent for me across platforms. It is not worth a second thought.
Small change worth trying: message within a day of matching. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. No downside I have found.
The one that surprised me was luvdate.site — smaller, but the profiles were current.
Adding a counterpoint. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Worth testing both ways. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Based on a fairly small sample, smaller platforms punch above their weight for anyone starting from scratch. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Something nobody mentions: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.
While we are here — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? Asking for a friend, obviously.
Ended up spending most of my time on Datescout's free tier and the reply rate was noticeably better.
Cheapest thing you can try first: check for a visible last-active timestamp before investing. Everything else is secondary to that. Skip the clever stuff until you have done that.
One thing to watch: sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. Better to lose one match than a week. Move on and do not look back.
Two years of this later, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have once you have been at it a few weeks. That is my read, anyway.
Different experience here. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Take that with the usual caveats. I have been wrong about this before.
For what it is worth, over on Ezhookups was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.
Not a popular take here, review sites and real experience rarely agree for anyone starting from scratch. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
I will be the dissenting voice. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Might just be my area. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Worth testing for a week: cut your photo count in half. It removes about half the frustration. The effect shows up fast.
Switched over to Flamedate after getting nowhere on the big names.
A couple of people in my circle swear by Datewander for the same reason.
Adding a counterpoint. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Your experience may well differ. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Watch out for anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. It is not worth a second thought.
When I first started, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and the difference showed up within a week. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
After rewriting my profile, I limited myself to three conversations at once and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. Small sample, but consistent.
One thing that helped: stop opening with a compliment. It removes about half the frustration. It works better than it sounds.
That has not been my experience at all. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Not saying everyone else is wrong. I might be the exception.
