Putting this to the forum because search results were useless: Is curvybbw a good community for body positivity? Tell me if I am asking the wrong question.
I nearly paid for the usual plus-size dating apps and half the accounts looked inactive. The part that matters to me is whether reply rates are as bad as they look when you have already tried the obvious options.
For most of last year, I stuck to plus-size dating apps for body positivity with complete profiles only and the difference showed up within a week. It stopped being random after that.
Hard disagree on one point. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Your experience may well differ. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Careful with profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. Move on and do not look back.
Before anything else: cut your photo count in half. It sounds trivial and it is not. Takes about five minutes.
Still keep datingfly.online installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Hard disagree on one point. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Might just be my area. I have been wrong about this before.
Different experience here. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Your experience may well differ. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Worth asking — does widening the radius ever help or just add noise? Would love a straight answer on that.
Keep an eye on auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. Better safe than curious.
Ended up spending most of my time on over on Datedesire and the reply rate was noticeably better.
Worth noting that Flurrydate runs a similar free tier if you want to compare.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Take that with the usual caveats. Just adding another data point.
In my experience, profile quality beats profile quantity every time once you have been at it a few weeks. It took a while to accept.
Tangent, sorry — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
The advice I wish I had: cut your photo count in half. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. Skip the clever stuff until you have done that.
Tried Flurrydate's free tier on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
Hard disagree on one point. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Happy to be an outlier on that. I might be the exception.
Curious about the flip side — does this hold up outside big cities? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Broadly speaking, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one and the numbers back that up. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
Ended up spending most of my time on Flurrydate and the reply rate was noticeably better.
Practical suggestion: cut your photo count in half. It removes about half the frustration. Try it for one week only.
A while back, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and the conversations got shorter but better. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Respectfully, I read it differently. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Your experience may well differ. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Ended up spending most of my time on turndate.site and the reply rate was noticeably better.
While we are here — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Based on a fairly small sample, the first message decides almost everything though your mileage will vary. That is my read, anyway.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Your experience may well differ. There is room for both to be true.
Keep an eye on sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. The cost of being wrong is low.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Rendate (free to message) and it turned out to be decent advice.
