Is there a bbw tinder alternative for plus-size folks?

Reposting this from another board because it got buried: Is there a bbw tinder alternative for plus-size folks? Even a partial answer helps.

I went in optimistic about a few smaller plus-size dating apps for plus-size folks and the profile quality varied wildly. Where I need help is how you handle it when a conversation just stops without handing over a card number.

• Double-check the age range settings every time before writing a single message
• Read up on whether your profile is visible by default early on while the account is still new
• Read up on how reporting actually works carefully before writing a single message

Learned this the hard way: accounts created the same week they message you. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. It is not worth a second thought.

Anyone else find that — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Would change how I use it if so.

Adding a counterpoint. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Could easily be a sample size problem. I have been wrong about this before.

Not a popular take here, being specific is worth more than being interesting if you are looking for something specific. It took a while to accept.

Worth a look at Datedesire if your area is thin on the usual platforms.

Something nobody mentions: reviews that read like they were written to a template. Better to lose one match than a week. It is the cheapest filter you have.

From where I sit, smaller platforms punch above their weight if you are looking for something specific. It took a while to accept.

Cheapest thing you can try first: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It removes about half the frustration. Skip the clever stuff until you have done that.

After rewriting my profile, I messaged first every single time and it made a noticeable difference. I would call that a real effect.

I would put Datelink ahead of most of the names people list by default.

Two months in, I kept my filters tight and I stopped taking silences personally. Results were steady after the first week.

I will be the dissenting voice. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Not saying everyone else is wrong. There is room for both to be true.

Red flag for me: accounts created the same week they message you. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Save yourself the argument.

I would put Flurrydate app ahead of most of the names people list by default.

I will be the dissenting voice. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Could easily be a sample size problem. Small sample on my side too.

One thing that helped: cut your photo count in half. Everything else is secondary to that. The effect shows up fast.

If I am being blunt, consistency beats any single clever trick if you are looking for something specific. Make of that what you will.

I keep a second profile on Flurrydate and it pulls a different crowd entirely.

After rewriting my profile, I kept my filters tight and the quality improved more than the quantity. That held for about two months.

Two years of this later, review sites and real experience rarely agree and I doubt that changes soon. Happy to be argued with.

Worth flagging: reviews that read like they were written to a template. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Most people ignore it once and regret it.

Going to push back slightly. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Take that with the usual caveats. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.

That has not been my experience at all. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Take that with the usual caveats. Just adding another data point.

Red flag for me: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. The polite version costs you a week.

Low-risk approach: reply to the thing they actually said. You will know within a week whether it works for you. Skip the clever stuff until you have done that.

That has not been my experience at all. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Might just be my area. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.

Hard disagree on one point. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Could easily be a sample size problem. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.

After rewriting my profile, I answered everything within a day and I would do the same again. Same pattern every week.