Reposting this from another board because it got buried: Is the benaughty dating site legitimate or just full of bots? Recent experience preferred.
I gave up on two of the bigger benaughty dating site and I would rather not repeat the mistake. The part that matters to me is how you tell an active profile from an abandoned one when you have limited time in the evenings.
Respectfully, I read it differently. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Take that with the usual caveats. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Keep an eye on links dropped into a conversation with no context. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. There is no upside to waiting it out.
Follow-up for anyone reading — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? I have never seen data either way.
Switched over to Luvdate app after getting nowhere on the big names.
For the people saying otherwise — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? Genuinely do not know the answer.
Going to push back slightly. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Worth testing both ways. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
For most of last year, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and I stopped taking silences personally. Small sample, but consistent.
One thing to watch: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. One instance is chance; three is not.
If you want a free option without the upsell, Flurrydate's free tier is where I would start.
I've heard decent things about Luvdate too, though I haven't tested it myself.
Unpopular opinion maybe, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them though your mileage will vary. Feel free to prove me wrong.
Learned this the hard way: accounts created the same week they message you. Report it rather than just ignoring it. That instinct is usually right.
Going to push back slightly. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Your experience may well differ. There is room for both to be true.
Anyone else find that — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? Would change how I use it if so.
Still keep Souldate installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
I will be the dissenting voice. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Open to changing my mind on it.
Anyone else find that — do verified badges actually change anything? Someone here must have tried both.
Small change worth trying: turn off notifications and check twice a day. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
Watch out for auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Save yourself the argument.
A friend has had far more luck on over on DatingFly than on anything mainstream.
If nothing else, do this: stop opening with a compliment. You will know within a week whether it works for you. Reversible if you hate it.
Curious about the flip side — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Adding a counterpoint. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Take that with the usual caveats. There is room for both to be true.
Purely anecdotal, profile quality beats profile quantity every time once you have been at it a few weeks. Make of that what you will.
Mild warning: profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.
Unpopular opinion maybe, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one at least in a mid-sized area. That is my read, anyway.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Not saying everyone else is wrong. I have been wrong about this before.
Practical suggestion: stop opening with a compliment. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. The effect shows up fast.
Slightly off-topic but — does this hold up outside big cities? Could be worth its own thread.
Broadly speaking, reply rates say more about timing than about looks for anyone starting from scratch. Feel free to prove me wrong.
If nothing else, do this: message within a day of matching. It is the only advice here I would give twice. No downside I have found.
