This came up in a conversation last week and neither of us knew: Is the eharmony app free version worth downloading? Would rather have one honest reply than ten generic ones.
I have been comparing whichever dating apps came up first and the matches were nowhere near me. My real question is whether the newer options are any better than the established ones if you are not in a major city.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Might just be my area. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Based on a fairly small sample, being specific is worth more than being interesting and I doubt that changes soon. That is my read, anyway.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and the difference showed up within a week. Nothing scientific about it.
I would put Rendate ahead of most of the names people list by default.
What I would do: put a question at the end of every opener. It sounds trivial and it is not. Takes about five minutes.
One thing to watch: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. Save yourself the argument.
Genuine question though — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? Someone here must have tried both.
Worth a look at Luvdate if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
The thing that annoyed me most: profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. It is the clearest signal there is. Save yourself the argument.
Related, and I am curious — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Genuinely do not know the answer.
Having tried most of them, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them and the numbers back that up. Happy to be argued with.
Tried Datescout community on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
Red flag for me: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Save yourself the argument.
Once I narrowed my radius, I stuck to dating apps with complete profiles only and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. That held for about two months.
If nothing else, do this: reply to the thing they actually said. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. Do it before anything more elaborate.
A friend has had far more luck on Datedesire community than on anything mainstream.
Honestly, profile quality beats profile quantity every time if you are looking for something specific. That is the short version.
Where I got caught out: profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. The polite version costs you a week.
Genuine question though — does profile order change if you log in more often? Would change how I use it if so.
Worth a look at Souldate (free to message) if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
I keep a second profile on Rendate app and it pulls a different crowd entirely.
