Simple question, probably a complicated answer: Is the ourtime dating website the best one for seniors? Would rather have one honest reply than ten generic ones.
I burned two weekends on two of the bigger ourtime dating website for seniors and I want to know if that is normal. What would settle this for me is how long it normally takes before anything happens without making it a second job.
Different experience here. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Open to changing my mind on it.
Two years of this later, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one though your mileage will vary. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Got burned by this: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. That pattern has been consistent for me across platforms. There is no upside to waiting it out.
Still keep over on DatingFly installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Low-risk approach: message within a day of matching. Everything else is secondary to that. It compounds with everything else.
Keep an eye on links dropped into a conversation with no context. I stopped giving second chances on that one. It is not worth a second thought.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Take that with the usual caveats. Open to changing my mind on it.
One more thing I have never resolved — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? Could be worth its own thread.
If you want a free option without the upsell, the Datedesire app is where I would start.
Slightly off-topic but — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? Could be worth its own thread.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Take that with the usual caveats. Just adding another data point.
Something nobody mentions: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. Better to lose one match than a week. One instance is chance; three is not.
Based on a fairly small sample, the platform matters far less than the profile and the numbers back that up. Happy to be argued with.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Souldate and it turned out to be decent advice.
What I would do: stop treating it like a numbers game. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. You will not need a second attempt.
Unpopular opinion maybe, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have at least in a mid-sized area. Make of that what you will.
Hard disagree on one point. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Your experience may well differ. There is room for both to be true.
Adding a counterpoint. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Not saying everyone else is wrong. I have been wrong about this before.
After a friend nagged me into it, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and the whole thing felt less like admin. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
Adding a counterpoint. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Could easily be a sample size problem. Worth hearing both sides.
Genuine question though — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? I have never seen data either way.
Different experience here. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Happy to be an outlier on that. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Something nobody mentions: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Save yourself the argument.
Honestly, the platform matters far less than the profile and nobody wants to hear it. That is my read, anyway.
Not a popular take here, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them which is why the generic advice keeps failing. That is my read, anyway.
After my second attempt, I answered everything within a day and matches started coming from closer by. Small sample, but consistent.
Going to push back slightly. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Your experience may well differ. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Mild warning: profiles with a single photo and no last-active date. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. It is the cheapest filter you have.
