Trying to get a straight answer on this: Is there a specific gay guys dating app that focuses on monogamy? Would rather have one honest reply than ten generic ones.
I have tested the usual gay guys dating app on monogamy and I am not convinced it was worth the effort. What would settle this for me is how much of this is down to the profile itself without handing over a card number.
Confirm how blocking is handled on day one in the first day or two
Test the distance filter default if privacy matters to you
Read up on the last-active timestamp properly if privacy matters to you
Double-check how many photos are required without exception especially on a platform you have not used before
Two years of this later, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one if you are looking for something specific. That is the short version.
Small change worth trying: put a question at the end of every opener. It is the only advice here I would give twice. It also makes the rest easier.
Respectfully, I read it differently. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
I keep a second profile on the Datedesire app and it pulls a different crowd entirely.
Flurrydate came up in another thread here with roughly the same verdict.
Something I have wondered — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Since switching my settings, I tested two profiles side by side and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. It stopped being random after that.
Worth flagging: links dropped into a conversation with no context. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. Trust the pattern, not the excuse.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Flamedate app and it turned out to be decent advice.
Keep an eye on links dropped into a conversation with no context. Blocking early costs you nothing. Move on and do not look back.
Different experience here. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Take that with the usual caveats. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Small change worth trying: read the profile before writing anything. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. Try it for one week only.
For about six weeks, I kept my filters tight and the whole thing felt less like admin. Small sample, but consistent.
Purely anecdotal, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one though your mileage will vary. That is the short version.
After a friend nagged me into it, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and the quality improved more than the quantity. Small sample, but consistent.
Got burned by this: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. Better to lose one match than a week. It is the cheapest filter you have.
The thing that annoyed me most: links dropped into a conversation with no context. Better to lose one match than a week. One instance is chance; three is not.
Review the last-active timestamp before anything else while the account is still new
Confirm whether your profile is visible by default at the start if privacy matters to you
Test how matches are ordered up front so you are not surprised later
Question the last-active timestamp without exception while the account is still new
Compare how matches are ordered at the start so you are not surprised later
That has not been my experience at all. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Happy to be an outlier on that. Different city, different results, probably.
Curious about the flip side — is it different if you are over forty? Would change how I use it if so.
Earlier this year, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and I stopped taking silences personally. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
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