Reposting this from another board because it got buried: Is there an international dating app that is specifically for travelers? Not looking for a sales pitch.
I nearly paid for a few smaller international dating app for travelers and the matches were nowhere near me. What I actually want to know is how long it normally takes before anything happens without making it a second job.
Worth testing for a week: set your radius smaller than feels sensible. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. Easiest change on this list.
Over the winter, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and the conversations got shorter but better. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Tangent, sorry — does this hold up outside big cities? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Still keep DatingFly community installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Cheapest thing you can try first: stop treating it like a numbers game. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
Speaking only for myself, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are for anyone starting from scratch. That is the short version.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and the reply rate roughly doubled. Results were steady after the first week.
I will be the dissenting voice. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Could easily be a sample size problem. Open to changing my mind on it.
I would put Datedesire ahead of most of the names people list by default.
After my second attempt, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and I would do the same again. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Where I got caught out: sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. Report it rather than just ignoring it. One instance is chance; three is not.
For what it is worth, being specific is worth more than being interesting and I doubt that changes soon. Nothing controversial in that, I hope.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Worth testing both ways. Small sample on my side too.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Datenest app and it turned out to be decent advice.
A couple of people in my circle swear by Flamedate for the same reason.
Least effort, most return: read the profile before writing anything. It removes about half the frustration. No downside I have found.
Two years of this later, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are which is why the generic advice keeps failing. Feel free to prove me wrong.
Over the winter, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and I finally stopped wasting evenings. Nothing scientific about it.
Anyone else find that — does any of this change once you have been active for a year? No agenda, just curious.
If you want a free option without the upsell, Datedesire is where I would start.
Where I got caught out: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. It is the clearest signal there is. The polite version costs you a week.
Realistically, review sites and real experience rarely agree though your mileage will vary. The exceptions are rarer than people think.
Once I narrowed my radius, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and the conversations got shorter but better. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Going to push back slightly. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Could easily be a sample size problem. There is room for both to be true.
Genuine question though — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? I have never seen data either way.
Before anything else: stop opening with a compliment. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
Careful with auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.
Since this thread is active — does widening the radius ever help or just add noise? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
Practical suggestion: set your radius smaller than feels sensible. It removes about half the frustration. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
Different experience here. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Worth testing both ways. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Related, and I am curious — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? I have never seen data either way.
