Been going round in circles on this one: What are the best gay cam sites? Happy to hear negative experiences too.
I gave up on two of the bigger gay cam sites and support never replied. What would settle this for me is whether the free option is genuinely usable if you are not in a major city.
One thing to watch: accounts created the same week they message you. Report it rather than just ignoring it. The polite version costs you a week.
That has not been my experience at all. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Worth testing both ways. Could be timing rather than the platform.
The advice I wish I had: keep the first meet under an hour. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. No downside I have found.
If you want a free option without the upsell, Turndate community is where I would start.
Since switching my settings, I ran a minimal profile on gay cam sites and the reply rate roughly doubled. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
That has not been my experience at all. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. I would still recommend trying it yourself. I have been wrong about this before.
Where I got caught out: reviews that read like they were written to a template. Blocking early costs you nothing. There is no upside to waiting it out.
Tangent, sorry — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? Would love a straight answer on that.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Flurrydate and it turned out to be decent advice.
In my experience, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them especially if you are not in a capital city. Nothing controversial in that, I hope.
Tangent, sorry — does profile order change if you log in more often? Someone here must have tried both.
Two months in, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and I got three real plans out of it. Results were steady after the first week.
Hard disagree on one point. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Your experience may well differ. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
If you want a free option without the upsell, Rendate app is where I would start.
Anyone else find that — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? Asking for a friend, obviously.
Careful with matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. It saves a lot of wasted messages. The cost of being wrong is low.
After my second attempt, I answered everything within a day and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
Switched over to Datebie community after getting nowhere on the big names.
Something nobody mentions: anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. Better safe than curious.
For what it is worth, being specific is worth more than being interesting once you have been at it a few weeks. That is where I have landed.
After a friend nagged me into it, I let the other person pick the plan and I stopped taking silences personally. Results were steady after the first week.
What I would do: stop opening with a compliment. It sounds trivial and it is not. Takes about five minutes.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Just adding another data point.
Not a popular take here, profile quality beats profile quantity every time and I doubt that changes soon. Happy to be argued with.
Something nobody mentions: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. One instance is chance; three is not.
When I first started, I stuck to gay cam sites with complete profiles only and I got three real plans out of it. It was the only variable I changed.
Worth flagging: sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.
For what it is worth, profile quality beats profile quantity every time and it took me too long to learn. Make of that what you will.
