Asking because the advice online contradicts itself: What are the best international dating sites for Western men? Not looking for a sales pitch.
I have had mixed results with one of the newer international dating sites for western men and I could not tell which reviews were paid for. My real question is how long it normally takes before anything happens as someone coming back after a long break.
Read up on how quickly support responds carefully before you widen your search
Look at how quickly support responds before you upload anything personal
Confirm whether messaging is capped without exception so you are not surprised later
Find out how matches are ordered properly so you are not surprised later
Got burned by this: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. That instinct is usually right.
A while back, I stuck to international dating sites for western men with complete profiles only and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
For what it is worth, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one unless you have unusually niche requirements. Happy to be argued with.
Adding a counterpoint. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Could easily be a sample size problem. Just adding another data point.
What I would do: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. It also makes the rest easier.
Read up on whether messaging is capped on day one if privacy matters to you
Double-check the age range settings at the start before you invest any real time
Find out whether profiles are verified early on while the account is still new
Over the winter, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and I finally stopped wasting evenings. It was the only variable I changed.
Slightly off-topic but — does this hold up outside big cities? Could be worth its own thread.
I will be the dissenting voice. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Take that with the usual caveats. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
For what it is worth, Flurrydate was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.
Worth testing for a week: cut your photo count in half. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. The effect shows up fast.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Open to changing my mind on it.
Earlier this year, I answered everything within a day and matches started coming from closer by. Results were steady after the first week.
Going to push back slightly. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Your experience may well differ. Different city, different results, probably.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Take that with the usual caveats. There is room for both to be true.
Two years of this later, smaller platforms punch above their weight and it took me too long to learn. Others here will disagree.
Anyone else find that — do photo changes reset how often you get shown? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
After a friend nagged me into it, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and it made a noticeable difference. Worth repeating if you have the patience.
Different experience here. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Worth hearing both sides.
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