Been going round in circles on this one: What are the most popular hooking apps in your city? Even a partial answer helps.
I have been using three different dating apps in your city and support never replied. What would settle this for me is how much of this is down to the profile itself if you are not in a major city.
Look at how blocking is handled up front before you widen your search
Verify the age range settings up front in the first day or two
Verify the last-active timestamp early on while the account is still new
Adding a counterpoint. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Happy to be an outlier on that. I would still test it yourself.
If nothing else, do this: put a question at the end of every opener. It is the only advice here I would give twice. Reversible if you hate it.
A while back, I stuck to dating apps in your city with complete profiles only and I stopped taking silences personally. It was the only variable I changed.
A friend has had far more luck on over on Luvdate than on anything mainstream.
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While we are here — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
When I first started, I ignored anything without a visible last-active date and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. It was the only variable I changed.
Something nobody mentions: accounts created the same week they message you. It is the clearest signal there is. Better safe than curious.
I will be the dissenting voice. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Worth hearing both sides.
Worth testing for a week: stop opening with a compliment. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. It also makes the rest easier.
Two months in, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
Curious about the flip side — is it different if you are over forty? Someone here must have tried both.
I will be the dissenting voice. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Your experience may well differ. That is one person's view against the thread.
Still keep Souldate's free tier installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
What I would do: read the profile before writing anything. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. No downside I have found.
Where I got caught out: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. The polite version costs you a week.
Follow-up for anyone reading — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? No agenda, just curious.
I keep a second profile on flurrydate.online and it pulls a different crowd entirely.
I will be the dissenting voice. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Might just be my area. I have been wrong about this before.
Two years of this later, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them and nobody wants to hear it. I would put money on it.
Careful with anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. I stopped giving second chances on that one. The cost of being wrong is low.
Anyone else find that — does this hold up outside big cities? Would change how I use it if so.
Since switching my settings, I tested two profiles side by side and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
Unpopular opinion maybe, smaller platforms punch above their weight which is why the generic advice keeps failing. That is where I have landed.
Piggybacking on that — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? Would change how I use it if so.
Anyone else find that — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? No agenda, just curious.
Having tried most of them, the first message decides almost everything unless you have unusually niche requirements. It took a while to accept.
I will be the dissenting voice. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Not saying everyone else is wrong. There is room for both to be true.
Worth flagging: accounts created the same week they message you. Better to lose one match than a week. Save yourself the argument.
A couple of people in my circle swear by Datescout for the same reason.
Genuine question though — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? I have never seen data either way.
Got burned by this: profiles with a single photo and no last-active date. Report it rather than just ignoring it. The polite version costs you a week.
After my second attempt, I tested two profiles side by side and the conversations got shorter but better. That held for about two months.
Hard disagree on one point. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Realistically, the algorithm gets blamed for a lot of ordinary bad luck and I doubt that changes soon. It is a boring answer and a true one.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Might just be my area. Just adding another data point.
Since switching my settings, I ran a minimal profile on dating apps and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. Small sample, but consistent.
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