Asking because the advice online contradicts itself: What is the best dating app for older women looking for companionship? Bonus points if you have used it in the last few months.
I went in optimistic about dating app for companionship and I would rather not repeat the mistake. What would settle this for me is how much of this is down to the profile itself if you are not in a major city.
Since this thread is active — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Realistically, consistency beats any single clever trick at least in a mid-sized area. Feel free to prove me wrong.
Mild warning: profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. Blocking early costs you nothing. It rarely turns out to be innocent.
Respectfully, I read it differently. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Not saying everyone else is wrong. I would still test it yourself.
I keep a second profile on over on Luvdate and it pulls a different crowd entirely.
Got burned by this: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. It is the clearest signal there is. Move on and do not look back.
Different experience here. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Your experience may well differ. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
In my experience, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them though your mileage will vary. That is where I have landed.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Flurrydate app and it turned out to be decent advice.
Piggybacking on that — is it different if you are over forty? Might just be me overthinking it.
Learned this the hard way: profiles with a single photo and no last-active date. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. The cost of being wrong is low.
Last month, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Before anything else: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. You will not need a second attempt.
Still keep Datedesire community installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
That has not been my experience at all. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Your experience may well differ. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Anyone else find that — has anyone found dating app for companionship that behave differently from the rest? Asking for a friend, obviously.
Learned this the hard way: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. It rarely turns out to be innocent.
The advice I wish I had: check for a visible last-active timestamp before investing. It sounds trivial and it is not. You will not need a second attempt.
Since switching my settings, I kept photos to four and cut the rest and honestly it was the only thing that helped. Your area may behave differently.
In my experience, smaller platforms punch above their weight and I doubt that changes soon. Happy to be argued with.
Different experience here. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Could easily be a sample size problem. Worth hearing both sides.
Last month, I limited myself to three conversations at once and matches started coming from closer by. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
What I would do: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. It works better than it sounds.
Worth asking — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
Going to push back slightly. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Take that with the usual caveats. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Learned this the hard way: profiles with a single photo and no last-active date. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. There is no upside to waiting it out.
Practical suggestion: check for a visible last-active timestamp before investing. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. It also makes the rest easier.
Adding a counterpoint. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Could easily be a sample size problem. Just adding another data point.
Once I narrowed my radius, I kept my filters tight and I would do the same again. Your area may behave differently.
Careful with matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. It is the clearest signal there is. It is the cheapest filter you have.
Follow-up for anyone reading — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? Would love a straight answer on that.
I will be the dissenting voice. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Just adding another data point.
I will be the dissenting voice. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Not saying everyone else is wrong. I have been wrong about this before.
Curious about the flip side — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? Might just be me overthinking it.
One thing that helped: read the profile before writing anything. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. It also makes the rest easier.
Since switching my settings, I tested two profiles side by side and I got three real plans out of it. Repeated it twice to be sure.
