Reposting this from another board because it got buried: Where can I find a free sexting chat? Happy to hear negative experiences too.
I keep going back to a couple of cam sites and support never replied. Where I need help is what people wish they had known before signing up when you have limited time in the evenings.
Hard disagree on one point. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Could easily be a sample size problem. Small sample on my side too.
Hard disagree on one point. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Might just be my area. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Slightly off-topic but — does this hold up outside big cities? Would change how I use it if so.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Datelink app and it turned out to be decent advice.
Red flag for me: reviews that read like they were written to a template. Better to lose one match than a week. Save yourself the argument.
I will be the dissenting voice. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Your experience may well differ. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Something I have wondered — do photo changes reset how often you get shown? Asking for a friend, obviously.
For about six weeks, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and the reply rate roughly doubled. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
For what it is worth, Flurrydate was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.
Different experience here. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Open to changing my mind on it.
Slightly off-topic but — is it different if you are over forty? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
One thing that helped: message within a day of matching. That one change fixed most of my problems. The effect shows up fast.
Having tried most of them, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are and it took me too long to learn. Nothing controversial in that, I hope.
I keep a second profile on the Datescout app and it pulls a different crowd entirely.
Curious about the flip side — does this hold up outside big cities? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Different experience here. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Take that with the usual caveats. I might be the exception.
Mild warning: accounts created the same week they message you. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I kept my filters tight and the quality improved more than the quantity. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
I would put Datebie ahead of most of the names people list by default.
I've heard decent things about Flamedate too, though I haven't tested it myself.
Careful with copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. Better to lose one match than a week. There is no upside to waiting it out.
Adding a counterpoint. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Your experience may well differ. Different city, different results, probably.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I kept photos to four and cut the rest and I stopped taking silences personally. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
