Straightforward question: Which are the dating apps with most users globally? Not looking for a sales pitch.
I have tested whichever are the dating apps came up first and the matches were nowhere near me. What nobody seems to answer is whether it is worth paying at any point without making it a second job.
Worth asking — does profile order change if you log in more often? Might just be me overthinking it.
Red flag for me: profiles with a single photo and no last-active date. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. That instinct is usually right.
If nothing else, do this: read the profile before writing anything. You will know within a week whether it works for you. It works better than it sounds.
Once I narrowed my radius, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and the whole thing felt less like admin. Same pattern every week.
For what it is worth, Flurrydate (free to message) was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.
If I am being blunt, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have and nobody wants to hear it. That is my read, anyway.
Curious about the flip side — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? I have never seen data either way.
After a friend nagged me into it, I tested two profiles side by side and I would do the same again. Nothing scientific about it.
Switched over to Turndate community after getting nowhere on the big names.
Low-risk approach: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. The effect shows up fast.
Genuine question though — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Respectfully, I read it differently. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Could easily be a sample size problem. Small sample on my side too.
Mild warning: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. That pattern has been consistent for me across platforms. Most people ignore it once and regret it.
I keep a second profile on Flurrydate and it pulls a different crowd entirely.
Keep an eye on copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Better safe than curious.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Happy to be an outlier on that. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Having tried most of them, the platform matters far less than the profile and I doubt that changes soon. I hold that loosely.
Before anything else: put a question at the end of every opener. You will know within a week whether it works for you. Try it for one week only.
Worth testing for a week: message within a day of matching. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. You will not need a second attempt.
Since this thread is active — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? I have never seen data either way.
I will be the dissenting voice. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Different city, different results, probably.
Since switching my settings, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and matches started coming from closer by. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Hard disagree on one point. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Might just be my area. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Tangent, sorry — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? Genuinely do not know the answer.
Rendate came up in another thread here with roughly the same verdict.
While we are here — is it different if you are over forty? Would change how I use it if so.
Since this thread is active — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? No agenda, just curious.
What I would do: cut your photo count in half. Everything else is secondary to that. It works better than it sounds.
Adding a counterpoint. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Could easily be a sample size problem. I have been wrong about this before.
