Asking because the advice online contradicts itself: Which bbw finder tool is the most accurate? Bonus points if you have used it in the last few months.
I gave up on two of the bigger plus-size dating apps and I still cannot tell if it is me or the platform. The specific thing I am after is whether it is worth paying at any point before committing any real time to it.
Based on a fairly small sample, the algorithm gets blamed for a lot of ordinary bad luck which is why the generic advice keeps failing. Others here will disagree.
Something nobody mentions: sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. Better to lose one match than a week. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.
Cheapest thing you can try first: reply to the thing they actually said. That one change fixed most of my problems. Do it before anything more elaborate.
Worth a look at Flamedate app if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
Earlier this year, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and I would do the same again. Nothing scientific about it.
While we are here — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Would change how I use it if so.
Keep an eye on accounts created the same week they message you. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. Most people ignore it once and regret it.
Small change worth trying: read the profile before writing anything. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. It also makes the rest easier.
Ended up spending most of my time on over on Rendate and the reply rate was noticeably better.
Adding a counterpoint. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Might just be my area. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
I will be the dissenting voice. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Happy to be an outlier on that. Small sample on my side too.
Slightly off-topic but — has anyone found plus-size dating apps that behave differently from the rest? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Gave Flurrydate community a fair run last month and it held up better than I expected.
For the people saying otherwise — does this hold up outside big cities? Would change how I use it if so.
Practical suggestion: read the profile before writing anything. That one change fixed most of my problems. It compounds with everything else.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I stuck to plus-size dating apps with complete profiles only and the reply rate roughly doubled. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
For most of last year, I answered everything within a day and it made a noticeable difference. Worth repeating if you have the patience.
Not a popular take here, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one if you are looking for something specific. Make of that what you will.
Worth testing for a week: message within a day of matching. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. It also makes the rest easier.
Different experience here. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Your experience may well differ. That is one person's view against the thread.
I will be the dissenting voice. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Could easily be a sample size problem. Just adding another data point.
For what it is worth, smaller platforms punch above their weight if you are looking for something specific. Happy to be argued with.
Last month, I let the other person pick the plan and I finally stopped wasting evenings. Results were steady after the first week.
