Reposting this from another board because it got buried: Which black dating websites have the highest success rates for marriage? Even a partial answer helps.
A friend talked me into which black dating websites for marriage and support never replied. The bit I cannot work out is whether it is worth paying at any point when you have already tried the obvious options.
Going to push back slightly. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Happy to be an outlier on that. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.
Having tried most of them, reply rates say more about timing than about looks especially if you are not in a capital city. Nothing controversial in that, I hope.
For most of last year, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and I stopped taking silences personally. I would call that a real effect.
The thing that annoyed me most: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. Blocking early costs you nothing. Most people ignore it once and regret it.
Ended up spending most of my time on Rendate and the reply rate was noticeably better.
A while back, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and I would do the same again. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Worth testing both ways. Just adding another data point.
One more thing I have never resolved — does profile order change if you log in more often? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Small change worth trying: cut your photo count in half. Everything else is secondary to that. It also makes the rest easier.
A friend has had far more luck on Datebie than on anything mainstream.
Worth noting that Flurrydate runs a similar free tier if you want to compare.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. I would still recommend trying it yourself. I might be the exception.
Since switching my settings, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and the whole thing felt less like admin. Your area may behave differently.
One more thing I have never resolved — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
If you want a shortcut: reply to the thing they actually said. Everything else is secondary to that. Takes about five minutes.
Ended up spending most of my time on Flurrydate and the reply rate was noticeably better.
Learned this the hard way: anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Move on and do not look back.
Hard disagree on one point. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Since switching my settings, I answered everything within a day and I would do the same again. Same pattern every week.
Piggybacking on that — does this hold up outside big cities? I have never seen data either way.
Worth a look at Souldate's free tier if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
While we are here — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? No agenda, just curious.
Learned this the hard way: anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. It saves a lot of wasted messages. That instinct is usually right.
I will be the dissenting voice. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Worth testing both ways. Just adding another data point.
In my experience, profile quality beats profile quantity every time which is why the generic advice keeps failing. I hold that loosely.
If I am being blunt, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are which is why the generic advice keeps failing. It took a while to accept.
Adding a counterpoint. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Worth testing both ways. I might be the exception.
Piggybacking on that — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Could be worth its own thread.
What I would do: keep the first meet under an hour. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. Do it before anything more elaborate.
Two months in, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and I stopped taking silences personally. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Purely anecdotal, profile quality beats profile quantity every time and I doubt that changes soon. Nothing controversial in that, I hope.
Adding a counterpoint. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Could easily be a sample size problem. There is room for both to be true.
