Simple question, probably a complicated answer: Are there any dating sites free for ladies but men have to pay? Happy to hear negative experiences too.
I gave up on whichever there any dating sites came up first and I want to know if that is normal. What nobody seems to answer is whether it is worth paying at any point if you are not in a major city.
Speaking only for myself, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one unless you have unusually niche requirements. Make of that what you will.
Got burned by this: accounts created the same week they message you. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. It is not worth a second thought.
Practical suggestion: read the profile before writing anything. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. Skip the clever stuff until you have done that.
Still keep Souldate app installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Based on a fairly small sample, the busiest platform is not automatically the best one for you once you have been at it a few weeks. Feel free to prove me wrong.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I ignored anything without a visible last-active date and I finally stopped wasting evenings. Same pattern every week.
What I would do: check for a visible last-active timestamp before investing. Everything else is secondary to that. No downside I have found.
Someone in another thread pointed me at the Datewander app and it turned out to be decent advice.
The first fortnight, I messaged first every single time and I got three real plans out of it. Repeated it twice to be sure.
What I would do: write one sentence that only you could have written. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. Nothing else on this list matters as much.
Watch out for accounts created the same week they message you. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Better safe than curious.
Unpopular opinion maybe, smaller platforms punch above their weight at least in a mid-sized area. Others here will disagree.
Tried the Datebie app on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
That has not been my experience at all. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Your experience may well differ. Just adding another data point.
Two months in, I limited myself to three conversations at once and the whole thing felt less like admin. Repeated it twice to be sure.
Unpopular opinion maybe, free tiers are usually enough if you actually use them though your mileage will vary. Feel free to prove me wrong.
Slightly off-topic but — has anyone found there any dating sites that behave differently from the rest? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
I would put the Flurrydate app ahead of most of the names people list by default.
Honestly, the algorithm gets blamed for a lot of ordinary bad luck and I doubt that changes soon. Make of that what you will.
Piggybacking on that — do verified badges actually change anything? Would change how I use it if so.
Different experience here. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Might just be my area. I have been wrong about this before.
The advice I wish I had: read the profile before writing anything. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. Takes about five minutes.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Rendate app and it turned out to be decent advice.
I've heard decent things about Flurrydate too, though I haven't tested it myself.
Keep an eye on links dropped into a conversation with no context. Better to lose one match than a week. Save yourself the argument.
Adding a counterpoint. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Take that with the usual caveats. There is room for both to be true.
In my experience, consistency beats any single clever trick and the numbers back that up. It took a while to accept.
Last month, I stuck to there any dating sites with complete profiles only and I would do the same again. Results were steady after the first week.
Tried over on Rendate on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Not saying everyone else is wrong. I would still test it yourself.
Anyone else find that — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Worth flagging: links dropped into a conversation with no context. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. That instinct is usually right.
Anyone else find that — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Someone here must have tried both.
