Hoping someone here has actually tested this: Are there any discrete dating apps for married people seeking affairs? Happy to hear negative experiences too.
I keep going back to the usual any discrete dating apps and half the accounts looked inactive. What would settle this for me is whether the same advice applies outside big cities without spending anything to find out.
Piggybacking on that — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? Genuinely do not know the answer.
Mild warning: links dropped into a conversation with no context. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Save yourself the argument.
Last month, I limited myself to three conversations at once and honestly it was the only thing that helped. Results were steady after the first week.
One thing that helped: cut your photo count in half. You will know within a week whether it works for you. The effect shows up fast.
A friend has had far more luck on Datebound app than on anything mainstream.
Something I have wondered — do verified badges actually change anything? Would love a straight answer on that.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Worth testing both ways. Different city, different results, probably.
The advice I wish I had: stop opening with a compliment. Everything else is secondary to that. Easiest change on this list.
Between the free options I tested, luvdate.site had the least aggressive upsell.
Worth testing for a week: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. It also makes the rest easier.
Last month, I messaged first every single time and the reply rate roughly doubled. Your area may behave differently.
Adding a counterpoint. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Might just be my area. Different city, different results, probably.
Tried Datedesire on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
I will be the dissenting voice. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Could easily be a sample size problem. Small sample on my side too.
Once I narrowed my radius, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and I got three real plans out of it. That held for about two months.
Since this thread is active — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
I've heard decent things about Flamedate too, though I haven't tested it myself.
That has not been my experience at all. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Might just be my area. That is one person's view against the thread.
I will be the dissenting voice. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Could easily be a sample size problem. I would still test it yourself.
Since switching my settings, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. Results were steady after the first week.
Got burned by this: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Better safe than curious.
Honestly, the busiest platform is not automatically the best one for you for anyone starting from scratch. That is the short version.
If you want a shortcut: use a dedicated email address. Everything else is secondary to that. It compounds with everything else.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Happy to be an outlier on that. Just adding another data point.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Might just be my area. I have been wrong about this before.
After rewriting my profile, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and I would do the same again. It stopped being random after that.
Low-risk approach: stop opening with a compliment. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. Easiest change on this list.
