Something I keep wondering about: Is chubby dating becoming more mainstream? Any first-hand answers appreciated.
I went in optimistic about three different plus-size dating apps and support never replied. The part that matters to me is how long it normally takes before anything happens when you have already tried the obvious options.
Careful with profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. Save yourself the argument.
While we are here — has anyone found plus-size dating apps that behave differently from the rest? Could be worth its own thread.
Two months in, I messaged first every single time and I finally stopped wasting evenings. Your area may behave differently.
A friend has had far more luck on over on Flamedate than on anything mainstream.
A while back, I put one honest sentence in my bio and it made a noticeable difference. It was the only variable I changed.
Going to push back slightly. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Take that with the usual caveats. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
If I am being blunt, the busiest platform is not automatically the best one for you though your mileage will vary. Make of that what you will.
Where I got caught out: profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. Report it rather than just ignoring it. The polite version costs you a week.
Still keep Souldate installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
I will be the dissenting voice. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Your experience may well differ. I might be the exception.
Purely anecdotal, the platform matters far less than the profile at least in a mid-sized area. Others here will disagree.
Genuine question though — do photo changes reset how often you get shown? Someone here must have tried both.
Since switching my settings, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and I finally stopped wasting evenings. That held for about two months.
Switched over to Flurrydate community after getting nowhere on the big names.
Respectfully, I read it differently. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Worth testing both ways. Worth hearing both sides.
Mild warning: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Trust the pattern, not the excuse.
Something I have wondered — has anyone found plus-size dating apps that behave differently from the rest? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
If I am being blunt, the algorithm gets blamed for a lot of ordinary bad luck and nobody wants to hear it. That is my read, anyway.
Between the free options I tested, over on Datescout had the least aggressive upsell.
Hard disagree on one point. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Might just be my area. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
That has not been my experience at all. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Worth testing both ways. I have been wrong about this before.
Worth asking — has anyone found plus-size dating apps that behave differently from the rest? Might just be me overthinking it.
When I stopped overthinking it, I ran a minimal profile on plus-size dating apps and it made a noticeable difference. Repeated it twice to be sure.
I will be the dissenting voice. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Could easily be a sample size problem. I have been wrong about this before.
Tangent, sorry — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Hard disagree on one point. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Could easily be a sample size problem. That is one person's view against the thread.
Unpopular opinion maybe, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are once you have been at it a few weeks. I would put money on it.
After my second attempt, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and I finally stopped wasting evenings. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Worth testing both ways. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Open to changing my mind on it.
Small change worth trying: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It removes about half the frustration. No downside I have found.
While we are here — has anyone found plus-size dating apps that behave differently from the rest? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Red flag for me: anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. Better safe than curious.
