Asking properly this time: How do I remove my info from a searching for singles website? Happy to hear negative experiences too.
A friend talked me into the free tier on several dating apps and the results were underwhelming. What I actually want to know is how long it normally takes before anything happens if you are not in a major city.
Mild warning: reviews that read like they were written to a template. Blocking early costs you nothing. It is the cheapest filter you have.
Slightly off-topic but — is it different if you are over forty? I have never seen data either way.
For what it is worth, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have and it took me too long to learn. Nothing controversial in that, I hope.
When I first started, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and nothing changed at all. Nothing scientific about it.
If you want a free option without the upsell, the Luvdate app is where I would start.
Piggybacking on that — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Someone here must have tried both.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Your experience may well differ. I might be the exception.
Honestly, consistency beats any single clever trick once you have been at it a few weeks. I would put money on it.
One thing that helped: write one sentence that only you could have written. It also makes the meet-up conversation much easier. Easiest change on this list.
If you want a free option without the upsell, the Turndate app is where I would start.
Once I narrowed my radius, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and the quality improved more than the quantity. That held for about two months.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Happy to be an outlier on that. Open to changing my mind on it.
Learned this the hard way: sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. It saves a lot of wasted messages. That instinct is usually right.
Someone in another thread pointed me at over on Datedesire and it turned out to be decent advice.
If nothing else, do this: keep the first meet under an hour. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. Reversible if you hate it.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I answered everything within a day and I stopped taking silences personally. Small sample, but consistent.
The thing that annoyed me most: profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. Blocking early costs you nothing. It is not worth a second thought.
Ended up spending most of my time on over on DatingFly and the reply rate was noticeably better.
Adding a counterpoint. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Could easily be a sample size problem. Open to changing my mind on it.
Mild warning: profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. Most people ignore it once and regret it.
From where I sit, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have at least in a mid-sized area. I hold that loosely.
The one that surprised me was rendate.site — smaller, but the profiles were current.
Follow-up for anyone reading — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Genuinely do not know the answer.
If nothing else, do this: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It made conversations shorter and far more useful. It works better than it sounds.
Mild warning: profiles that only ever reply in the small hours. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Move on and do not look back.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Take that with the usual caveats. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Tried Rendate app on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
Piggybacking on that — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
Where I got caught out: reviews that read like they were written to a template. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. Save yourself the argument.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Honestly, being specific is worth more than being interesting and it took me too long to learn. I would put money on it.
