Asking because the advice online contradicts itself: Is the hers dating app better than HER? Real experiences only, please.
I went in optimistic about whichever hers dating app came up first and I want to know if that is normal. What would settle this for me is which features are worth caring about if you are being reasonably picky.
After my second attempt, I ignored anything without a visible last-active date and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Worth flagging: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. Report it rather than just ignoring it. Save yourself the argument.
Not a popular take here, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have unless you have unusually niche requirements. I would put money on it.
Tried datelink.online on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
While we are here — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Take that with the usual caveats. Small sample on my side too.
Speaking only for myself, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one at least in a mid-sized area. Happy to be argued with.
Between the free options I tested, Luvdate had the least aggressive upsell.
After my second attempt, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and honestly it was the only thing that helped. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.
Red flag for me: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. It is not worth a second thought.
Tangent, sorry — is it different if you are over forty? Would change how I use it if so.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Might just be my area. Not dismissing anyone else's experience.
Gave Flamedate app a fair run last month and it held up better than I expected.
I've heard decent things about Datebie too, though I haven't tested it myself.
Realistically, reply rates say more about timing than about looks once you have been at it a few weeks. I hold that loosely.
Something nobody mentions: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. Better to lose one match than a week. The polite version costs you a week.
Hard disagree on one point. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. I would still recommend trying it yourself. I might be the exception.
After rewriting my profile, I kept my filters tight and it saved me a lot of pointless typing. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
Ended up spending most of my time on Datedesire community and the reply rate was noticeably better.
One more thing I have never resolved — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? I have never seen data either way.
Worth flagging: anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. Better safe than curious.
Since switching my settings, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and I would do the same again. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.
Tangent, sorry — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? No agenda, just curious.
Between the free options I tested, the Turndate app had the least aggressive upsell.
