Is there a dating app for plus size women with a large user base?

Asking properly this time: Is there a dating app for plus size women with a large user base? No wrong answers here.

I stopped bothering with the free tier on several there a dating app with a large user base and support never replied. What I actually want to know is how much of this is down to the profile itself when you have limited time in the evenings.

• Note how many photos are required at the start before you upload anything personal
• Review whether profiles are verified if privacy matters to you
• Note the age range settings early on before writing a single message
• Find out how quickly support responds before anything else before you invest any real time

Purely anecdotal, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one which is why the generic advice keeps failing. I would put money on it.

Since switching my settings, I let the other person pick the plan and I got three real plans out of it. Results were steady after the first week.

Hard disagree on one point. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Happy to be an outlier on that. Small sample on my side too.

I keep a second profile on Luvdate and it pulls a different crowd entirely.

Since switching my settings, I tested two profiles side by side and honestly it was the only thing that helped. I would call that a real effect.

One thing that helped: cut your photo count in half. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. You will not need a second attempt.

Something nobody mentions: anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. Blocking early costs you nothing. Save yourself the argument.

For what it is worth, Datenest (free to message) was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.

Broadly speaking, the platform matters far less than the profile and nobody wants to hear it. I hold that loosely.

• Compare how matches are ordered up front rather than taking the marketing at face value
• Read up on the distance filter default straight away before you widen your search
• Test how many photos are required up front rather than taking the marketing at face value
• Work out how reporting actually works at the start if privacy matters to you
• Question how many photos are required early on on any platform you are considering

Worth testing for a week: keep the first meet under an hour. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. No downside I have found.

Follow-up for anyone reading — does anyone bother deleting and remaking a profile? Would love a straight answer on that.

Ended up spending most of my time on Souldate community and the reply rate was noticeably better.

One more thing I have never resolved — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? Would love a straight answer on that.

After my second attempt, I stopped sending openers before 9pm and I stopped taking silences personally. Same pattern every week.

Careful with accounts created the same week they message you. It saves a lot of wasted messages. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.

Between the free options I tested, Rendate had the least aggressive upsell.

Over the winter, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and matches started coming from closer by. I tracked it loosely and the trend was clear.

Worth testing for a week: keep the first meet under an hour. It costs nothing and the difference shows quickly. You will not need a second attempt.

Watch out for sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. It is the clearest signal there is. It is not worth a second thought.

That has not been my experience at all. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Not saying everyone else is wrong. Genuinely not trying to be difficult.

Switched over to datedesire.online after getting nowhere on the big names.

While we are here — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.

Before anything else: reply to the thing they actually said. It removes about half the frustration. Easiest change on this list.

Not a popular take here, review sites and real experience rarely agree and nobody wants to hear it. Happy to be argued with.

Last month, I stopped explaining myself in the first message and I got three real plans out of it. Your area may behave differently.

Small change worth trying: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. It stops the whole thing feeling like a chore. It works better than it sounds.

Once I narrowed my radius, I ran a minimal profile on there a dating app and the reply rate roughly doubled. That held for about two months.

Keep an eye on matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. Better to lose one match than a week. It is not worth a second thought.

Anyone else find that — does any of this change once you have been active for a year? Asking for a friend, obviously.

• Find out how reporting actually works every time before you invest any real time
• Find out the refund and cancellation terms at the start rather than taking the marketing at face value
• Assess how many photos are required carefully rather than taking the marketing at face value

One thing to watch: reviews that read like they were written to a template. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. Most people ignore it once and regret it.

One thing that helped: keep the first meet under an hour. You will know within a week whether it works for you. No downside I have found.

Something I have wondered — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? Genuinely do not know the answer.

For about six weeks, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and it made a noticeable difference. Same pattern every week.

Small change worth trying: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. Try it for one week only.

If I am being blunt, review sites and real experience rarely agree and I doubt that changes soon. Feel free to prove me wrong.

Learned this the hard way: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. I stopped giving second chances on that one. There is no upside to waiting it out.

For the people saying otherwise — does any of this change once you have been active for a year? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.

In my experience, consistency beats any single clever trick especially if you are not in a capital city. Feel free to prove me wrong.

Adding a counterpoint. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Might just be my area. Worth hearing both sides.

• Review how many photos are required every time if you plan to use it long-term
• Assess how reporting actually works without exception if privacy matters to you
• Work out what data the signup form asks for properly before writing a single message
• Assess how reporting actually works straight away rather than taking the marketing at face value
• Compare how many photos are required without exception so you are not surprised later

Curious about the flip side — does this hold up outside big cities? Asking for a friend, obviously.

Learned this the hard way: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. Blocking early costs you nothing. It rarely turns out to be innocent.

Around the time I gave up on the big names, I dropped every conversation that stalled twice and the conversations got shorter but better. Could be luck; it did not feel like it.