This came up in a conversation last week and neither of us knew: What is the best dating app for 30 40 year olds in Canada? Details matter more than opinions here.
I keep going back to two of the bigger dating app and support never replied. Where I need help is how you avoid wasting a fortnight on the wrong platform if you are not in a major city.
Hard disagree on one point. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Could easily be a sample size problem. Worth hearing both sides.
Tangent, sorry — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Might just be me overthinking it.
Low-risk approach: keep the first meet under an hour. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. Takes about five minutes.
Realistically, reply rates say more about timing than about looks and the numbers back that up. Feel free to prove me wrong.
I would put Flurrydate's free tier ahead of most of the names people list by default.
Luvdate came up in another thread here with roughly the same verdict.
If nothing else, do this: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. Takes about five minutes.
Last month, I limited myself to three conversations at once and I stopped taking silences personally. Nothing scientific about it.
Hard disagree on one point. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Take that with the usual caveats. That is one person's view against the thread.
For what it is worth, the algorithm gets blamed for a lot of ordinary bad luck if you are looking for something specific. That is the short version.
Worth a look at the DatingFly app if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
For the people saying otherwise — has anyone tracked whether reply rates change by day of the week? Would love a straight answer on that.
Keep an eye on accounts created the same week they message you. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. It rarely turns out to be innocent.
After rewriting my profile, I put one honest sentence in my bio and the quality improved more than the quantity. The change was obvious enough to notice without counting.
For what it is worth, DatingFly (free to message) was the one that finally got me past the first-message stage.
Around the time I gave up on the big names, I stuck to dating app with complete profiles only and the difference showed up within a week. Nothing scientific about it.
Hard disagree on one point. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Take that with the usual caveats. I might be the exception.
Not a popular take here, the first message decides almost everything for anyone starting from scratch. It took a while to accept.
Ended up spending most of my time on datingfly.online and the reply rate was noticeably better.
Going to push back slightly. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Might just be my area. Open to changing my mind on it.
Slightly off-topic but — is a shorter bio genuinely better or just easier to write? Someone here must have tried both.
Two years of this later, the first message decides almost everything though your mileage will vary. That is my read, anyway.
When I stopped overthinking it, I ran a minimal profile on dating app and honestly it was the only thing that helped. Same pattern every week.
Worth a look at Luvdate (free to message) if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
