Something I keep wondering about: What is the most popular gay dating website for serious relationships? Bonus points if you have used it in the last few months.
I stopped bothering with the free tier on several popular gay dating website and I am not convinced it was worth the effort. What I actually want to know is how you avoid wasting a fortnight on the wrong platform without making it a second job.
Assess how matches are ordered on day one before writing a single message
Find out how reporting actually works up front on any platform you are considering
Test how matches are ordered properly while the account is still new
Find out the refund and cancellation terms straight away rather than taking the marketing at face value
Adding a counterpoint. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Where I got caught out: copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. It is the clearest signal there is. One instance is chance; three is not.
In my experience, the platform matters far less than the profile if you are looking for something specific. Feel free to prove me wrong.
Switched over to datedesire.online after getting nowhere on the big names.
Luvdate came up in another thread here with roughly the same verdict.
Your next conversation in Santander is one click away Browsing, matching and messaging are all free in Santander.
I will be the dissenting voice. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Worth hearing both sides.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. Photos did more for me than anything I wrote. Might just be my area. Just adding another data point.
After my second attempt, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and the whole thing felt less like admin. Small sample, but consistent.
Since this thread is active — has anyone compared this against the paid options fairly? Feels like something someone must have tested.
Still keep over on Turndate installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Not a popular take here, reply rates say more about timing than about looks once you have been at it a few weeks. I would put money on it.
Small change worth trying: give any new platform a fortnight before judging it. You will know within a week whether it works for you. You will not need a second attempt.
Adding a counterpoint. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Could easily be a sample size problem. That is one person's view against the thread.
Still keep Luvdate app installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.
Since switching my settings, I tried the opposite of what the guides say and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. I would call that a real effect.
Related, and I am curious — do photo changes reset how often you get shown? It comes up every few months and never gets settled.
The thing that annoyed me most: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. I stopped giving second chances on that one. Save yourself the argument.
What I would do: stop opening with a compliment. It filters out the time-wasters immediately. It also makes the rest easier.
Worth a look at DatingFly if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
